One of the common issues I've noticed through coaching others and even in my own life is how hard consistency is to maintain.
There are many different factors that make be consistent hard but let's just be honest the biggest factor is laziness.
I know, I know...too honest?
Laziness is the thief that steals all results. With so many distractions at our fingertips, it's easy to go down the social media rabbit hole or rose the streaming rabbit hole. I've fallen victim to all of the above so I get it, going down the rabbit hole is fun sometimes. You get to check out of life for a minute and check into some mindless activity. Maybe have a glass of wine....I can see it now, "Sicily 2020" (If you caught that reference thank you for being a friend).
Even though I can lounge with the best of them, at some point you have to ask yourself, "Sis, really sis?" How bad do you want that thing that sits over the horizon of your wall of inconsistency? How bad do you want to FINALLY start that business? FINALLY, write that book? FINALLY, start that Podcase? FINALLY, get fit?
If there was ever a better time, that time is NOW. I mean..it's not like you have a lot of options seeing as though we're currently in quarantine so...I mean....
Not to worry, that's why I'm your favorite Life Strategist, I got you.
It's time to actually start doing all of the things YOU said YOU wanted to do. Here are 5 ways to increase your consistency and get the results you want in any area of life.
First things first, choose one goal to focus on. Let's just talk about how much energy it takes to focus on one thing let alone ALL of the things.
If you pick one thing to focus on, you can direct your energy truly to that one thing, lowe the risk of becoming overwhelmed, and limit unnecessary stress.
The best way to define what needs your attention the most is by asking yourself a few questions:
What is my biggest area of improvement right now?
What area do I have the most inconsistency in?
What do I want the end result to be?
If you need more help defining this area for yourself, download my 7 SPHERES To Living Your Best Life Worksheet:
The next thing to remember is to create a plan/strategy that will help you accomplish this goal in bite-sized steps.
I understand that we live in a microwave society that makes it "appear" that success is overnight, but the fact is success rarely happens overnight so prepare for the results you want to happen over time. Researchers initially stated that it takes 21 days to create/change a habit and now new research is stating that it could take months.
Try not to focus on the length of time it will take you to get to the end result but focus more on the strategy, doing the work, staying committed, and creating consistency. The results will come if you focus on the "how" instead of the "when."
Also, celebrate the small wins along the way. We are often so hard on ourselves when we don't see instant results that we get down and discouraged and this is one of the main reasons people tend to give up. A win is a win big or small. Celebrate each step of the way and this will turn your discouragement of time into celebrations of accomplishments along the way creating the motivation you need to keep pushing.
I am the QUEEN of small wins. I've started a new fitness journey this year and I focus on getting a minimum of 30 minutes of exercise each day. You cannot tell me I don't have a new ab at the end of each workout. If I'm working on glutes honey by the end my gluts are toned. I'm looking in the mirror admiring my new (non-existent) results. It's funny but what I'm really doing is visualizing my results and manifesting the vision.
Find a way for you to see each day, each step, as a win. Visualize the results while you're doing the work. Imagine every part of it. What will it look like? You get the picture!
The third thing to keep in mind is the emotional rollercoaster that will surely come.
NO MATTER WHAT!
No matter what your goal is, there will be so many different emotions you will encounter along the journey. Be ready to fight! You have to have your "WHY" at the forefront of your mind or in a quick place at all times because there will be days you're going to want to say "F" it. Your mind will try to talk you out of it and you will have to literally fight mentally and physically with YOURSELF to push past your emotions and keep focusing on the goal. There will be days when you're truly tired and that is okay. You have to be honest with yourself and know when you're truly drained and when you're giving yourself an excuse to be lazy (ouch).
Give yourself grace when needed and a kick in the butt when needed~ Life Strategist KG
Speaking of "Grace" let's talk about the fourth thing. It is okay not to get it right every single time. That is absolutely human. Don't use your down days as excuses to give up just because you missed the mark. Missing the mark doesn't equate to failure it just means you are human and we don't always get it right.
So you had that cheat meal, okay, get back on track the next meal you have. You missed a deadline, get back in the game. Don't use mistakes as an excuse to quit. Give yourself grace but don't keep repeating the mistake because that's not grace that's an excuse.
Check the reason for the mistake, determine what steps you can take moving forward to prevent it from becoming a habit, and keep it pushing. You've got goals to accomplish!
The last thing I have to say about creating consistency so that you can get the results that you want is to JUST DO IT! This is the mindset that helped me go from living in chaos, thinking about the things I want to do, thinking about the kind of life I wanted, and actually DOING IT.
When I start to go through all of the stages of giving up or being stuck, I tell myself, "Girl! Just do it!" This usually gets myself into action, I do the things, I see the results, I repeat the cycle.
I hope that this is helpful! Leave a comment and let know what part of this process do you struggle with the most?