Are you dreams fueled by passion or hobby?

Having a passion for something is way different than liking to do something in your spare time (hobby).  Knowing the difference in the two can be the difference in understanding your WHY and also understanding why you may not be successful at chasing what you think is your dream.  Let’s break down the difference between your passion and your hobby(s) and get you on the right track.

Understanding:

A hobby is an activity that you do regularly usually during your leisure time.  These are things that you “like” to do.  They can also be relaxing to your mind so you may do them as a way to escape the real world.  A great example of a hobby is, liking to shop.  You may love to shop for yourself in your leisure time but what if you had to do it for other people, for a living?  Would you get the same pleasure out of it?

Now let’s get to know passion.  Passion is something that you can’t control it’s like a burning desire to do something and the feeling won’t go away until you’ve fulfilled that burning desire. The definition of passion is a strong and barely controllable emotion.  If your passion was shopping, you would have a desire to shop and would enjoy doing it all of the time even for other people and even if you weren’t getting paid to do it.

To make it even clearer, a hobby is something that you “like” to and passion is something that you have a “desire” to do.

Why is this important?

You may be asking yourself, why the elementary lesson on hobby vs. passion, right?  Give me time, I’m taking you somewhere really important.

You see, I’ve noticed that there are several people wasting time and energy chasing hobbies and trying to make them into passions.  The problem here is that the “like” for hobbies quickly fades when it becomes something that is no longer fun to do.  So many people are trying to create businesses fueled by their “like” for a hobby and then they’re confused when it doesn’t work out.  It’s because they’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole and it was never meant to fit.

I’ve also been guilty of this.  I’ve had so many false starts I can’t name them all.  I “like’ makeup so I tried my hand at being a makeup consultant and selling Avon, that was a fail.  I got tired of chasing people to deliver their products and also spending all of the money I did make on personal products.   Can we say FAIL.

What about that time I decided I was going to sell natural virgin human hair?  Don’t get me wrong, I love hair just like the next chick; however, the fact that I regularly rock my naturally curly fro and know little to nothing about good weave didn’t set me up for success.  Needless to say, that was a FAIL.

I remember this one time, I found this site where I could sign up to sell accessories with little to no start-up cost.  I LOVE accessories but that love quickly faded when I realized that my dreams of being the accessory queen were going to take more than me creating a few Instagram post in order to make a sale.  Epic FAIL.

The common denominator in all of my shots in the dark is that they were all things that just “liked” to do. I had no passion for any of them.  I like makeup but I don’t see myself being the makeup artist of the year or creating a cosmetics line.   I don’t know enough about bundles to be a weaveologist and clearly, the effort was not there for me to become the next accessory mogul.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.  I know this to be 1000% true as you can see from my many failed attempts.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.

 

When I decided to step out of my comfort zone and chase my dreams of helping others dreams come true 1 person at a time, I had no choice.  There is this burning desire deep inside of me that forces me to think about business ALL OF THE TIME.  It forces me to work when I’m really tired and just want to catch some beauty rest.  It causes me to feel guilty when I’m not pushing myself hard enough or putting in more of my time to accomplish my goals.  It gives me the push through that I need when times get tough.  It helps me figure out how to juggle being a wife and mom all while working towards accomplishing my business goals.  My passion keeps me up at night thinking about ways to improve my skills and services.  I’m constantly thinking of ways to grow my business or thinking of how to create value for my clients.  It gives me the motivation to keep working even when it feels like no one is noticing.  This passion is something I can’t easily get rid of and it fuels me.   It gives me the drive I need to keep going.

When you have a vision and a dream, it’s going to take more than a “like” to push you through the hard times.  Don’t get caught up in how glamorous some of these chicks make it look on social media.  Trust me, it’s not always glamorous, hell it’s not glamorous most of the time.   Once the “like” wears off and you realize how much work it’s going to take for you to make your dream a reality, it’s going to take love and passion to push you to the next level.  Think of it like a marriage, once the honey moon phase is over, that’s when the real work kicks in.

Be prepared for the reality of what it will take to accomplish your goals and make your dream your reality.  Know that it’s going to take some strong push through muscles and perseverance to get you through the tough times.  There will be times when you will think about walking away and throwing your hands up.  Those are the times you will need your passion to make you go harder.

If you’re building your dreams off of “like”, let it go so that you can find that thing that you love.  That thing that you would do even if no one paid you.  That thing that burns deep in your belly and you can’t shake it.  That is what you will need to successfully make your dreams a reality.

I hope that you’ve found your passion in life and if not, don’t worry, it will find you when the time is right.

Sincerely, Your friend in your head and real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

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Chasing Dreams While Raising kids…How?

I often hear people speak about balance and trying to find it.  Here’s the hard truth, balance does not exist honey bunch, it’s a myth.   Sorry to burst you bubble and shatter your hopes of finding something thats about as easy to find as the mythical unicorn.

As a wife and mom of not 1, not 2, but 5 whole kids, I can honestly tell you with 1000% certainty that there is no such thing as balance.  I know for a fact, especially when you’re trying to manage multiple lives and your own.  It’s time to stop looking for the unicorn that is balance and to start coming up with a strategy to effectively chase your dreams and raise your kids.

For the longest time, I kept putting my goals off and making excuses about why I couldn’t start my business or write my book.  I kept saying it was because I didn’t have “balance.”  It got to the point that I was stagnant and not getting anything accomplished.  Meanwhile, back at the ranch, life was continuing to happen around me.

I had to realize that life is NEVER going to stop and wait for Kendra to get out there and live.  There will always be trials and tribulations.  Life will ALWAYS throw you curve balls,  it’s up to you to push through it and make things happen!  Yes, you’re going to have to be the driver of your dreams.

I had to realize that life is NEVER going to stop and wait for Kendra to get out there and live

Don’t let your responsibilities as a parent, provider, chef, taxi, boo boo kisser and monster chaser, keep you from sharing your awesomeness with the world.  Parenthood should never smother who you are meant to be, it should actually make you better and more determined to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You’re not doing your family any favors by not living in your purpose and settling for the mediocrity that life can offer, to those who are willing to accept it.  Where’s the fun in that?

Here are some tips I’ve learned over the years that’s helped me accomplish the things I set out to accomplish all while killing this thing called parenthood…hopefully 🙂

  1. TAKE BREAKS
    • Too often, I’ve seen parents get burned out because they’re trying to be super heroes and do everything for everybody but neglecting themselves.  Trust me, you’re not only doing yourself a disservice but you’re probably not being your best self for your family.  Take some “you” time at least twice a week or more if you can squeeze the time in.  You don’t have to take days at a time, you’ll be surprised how much a 3o min “meditation” break can help boost your spirits or morning coffee and chill moment can get your prepared for the day.  Carve out some time that you can go off in a corner and get some quiet time to reboost your life.
  2. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
    • As a mother of 5, I had to learn to not get worked up about EVERYTHING.  “OMG, the dishes are not cleaned!”  “OMG, theres laundry to be done.” “Omg, there are dirty boys to clean!”  I used to be that mom that fussed about everything.  It wasn’t until I reached a breaking point and had a breakdown/break through moment.  I realized that me fussing or cussing about everything didn’t change the outcome.  My kids would repeat the same patterns of dropping their clothes, toys, backpacks, etc, right where they stood when they walked through the door.  I would then repeat the pattern of fussing at the culprit, having them pick up the item, getting frustrated only to do it all over again THE NEXT DAY!  One day, instead of fussing, a light bulb went off and I decided to write the kids chores down, implement a incentive program (allowance) that deducted funds based on behavior and cleanliness.  I learned two things, kids love structure and kids love money.  This created a more organized routine for my kids but also made mommy 1 happy camper.
  3. STRUCTURE, STRUCTURE AND MORE STRUCTURE
    • As I stated in the last point, kids love structure.  Without it, there’s no organization or blueprint on what’s expected of them.  I can’t tell you how drastically my life changed once I implemented a more structured approach to chores, bedtime routines and life.  I have a chore board that I update weekly.  We know who’s doing what and at the end of the day I check it to make sure the assigned task was completed by the assigned kid.  If not, I deduct money from the weekly allowance and I also make that kid complete the task.  Not only is this teaching them how to have a good work ethic but it also teaches them responsibility and that there are consequences for your actions or lack thereof.
  4. CARVE OUT TIME TO WORK ON YOUR DREAMS
    • I know that your time is limited especially when you have children.  All 5 of my children compete in AAU, rec, school and any other sporting or extracurriculum event you can think of.  We have football, basketball, track, cheerleading and anything else they can wrap their minds around.  This means that I have to be creative, flexible and determined at putting effort towards chasing my dreams.  The good thing is, we live in a age of technology overflowing so I have all of the tools I need to work and grow my business at my fingertips.  While rooting for my son during his basketball game, I also do my social media post.  While waiting on a kid to complete practice, I respond to emails.  When you have a dream, you create a plan and you execute it no matter what.  Be resourceful and determined and you’ll reap the reward.
  5. PUSH THROUGH
    • Last but not least, raising kids and chasing dreams can be tiring and just down right disrespectful of your time and energy.  Both are hard jobs but both are extremely rewarding.  Neither is going to be easy and they both will come with their own set of challenges.  As long as you know that the journey will have it’s challenges but if you stick it out, work the goals and stay focused, you will not only raise successful children but you an also live your dreams.  Don’t give up in the hard times.  Press through the trials and you will reap the benefits of working hard at both, chasing dreams and raising kids.

 

 

Now that we know that there is no such thing as balance, let’s be intentional about the things we want out of life by taking the time we need to reboot, not sweating the small stuff, create structure, work on your dreams daily,and push through.  Who’s with me?

Did you find this post helpful, drop a line below and let me know what you’ve been putting off and how you’re going to go for it!

Your friend in your head, and real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

P.S.  Pick up your copy of my book, “Real Tales of a Momprenuer” to find out how I manage my family life while building a business and chasing my dreams.

 

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What Will Your Dash Say About You? Why It’s Time to Live Your Best Life Now!

There is no better time than the present to live your best life now~KG

So, I’m sitting here trying to think of the perfect words to say to convey the message I have in my heart to share.  The more that I keep trying to come up with catchy, clever things to say, the more at a loss for words I am.

To say what I want to say really doesn’t need fancy words or clever phrases.  The only thing that I can think to say is just the pure truth.

Recently, I’ve seen death touch the lives of almost everyone around me.  It started last December when my family was faced with the sudden death of one of my close family members.  She was a young 43 years old and her death was very sudden and unexpected.  She was healthy and lived a very lively life.

Even though she lived life to the fullest it seemed to those around her,  I don’t know if she would say that she lived her BEST life.  She probably would feel that there was still things that she didn’t get to do and dreams she didn’t get to live.

Dealing with something so tragic opened my eyes and gave me just that much more motivation to go after my dreams NO MATTER What!

For the last two years, I’ve been reading books about chasing dreams and living a great life.  First I read, No Matter What by Lisa Nichols and I was motivated to chase my dreams no matter what obstacles come my way.  So I began the process of becoming a Life Coach.  Then tragedy struck and I was temporarily knocked off of my rocker.

At the beginning of this year, 2016, I read another Lisa Nichols book, Abundance Now.  It was that book that pushed me out of my pity party and into fulfilling my dream of coaching and helping people live their best lives NOW.

You see, what I realized is that most of us are so caught up in the “right now,” that we can’t see beyond our current circumstances.  We get so lost in the mundane of everyday life, that we let our dreams die.

Steve Harvey recently repeated a quote that further pushed me out of my comfort zone.  Steve Harvey was speaking at one of his success events and he was speaking on not letting go of your imagination and he quoted Albert Einstein:

“Imagination is everything, it is a preview of life’s coming attractions.”

If you can imagine it, you can live it or have it.  God didn’t give you vision just to tease you or frustrate you.  He gave you vision so that you can see what life can be if you put forth the work necessary to make the vision a reality.

Your gift was given to you so that you can share it with the world, not to hold on to it and hide it from everyone including yourself.  We were all given gifts and talents that are connected to our purpose.  If you’re not sharing your gift, you’re not fulfilling your purpose, the reason you were created.

At the end of the day, we all will meet the same fate.  One day, this thing called life is going to come to an end for us all.  Most of us, if we’ve lived a good life, will have those that we touched speak our praises and keep our memories alive.  They’ll tell everyone they know about what type of person you were and everything you did to touch them, to inspire them or to help them.

Stephen Covey says in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, that you should begin with the end in mind.  If you thought of your life starting with the end.  And really contemplated how you wanted the end to be.  What do you want people to say about you at your funeral or wake?  What legacy would you like to leave behind?  If you really thought about your life with the end in mind, would you say that you’re currently doing the things you want to remembered for?  Are you living your best life?

Quit putting off your goals and dreams for tomorrow, tomorrow is not promised.  Quit letting fear, bad relationships, lack of finances,

Quit putting off your goals and dreams for tomorrow, tomorrow is not promised.
or anything else that is a small detail to a bigger picture, keep you from living your best life.

In the end, there will probably be a headstone with your name, date of birth and date of death.  If you’re lucky, maybe some nice words.

Here lies Kendra Garcia, loving wife and mother.  Born date-death date.  The end.

What will your dash represent for you?  The dash that separates the date you entered the world and the date you exited.  What type of life will that dash represent?  Will if represent a life well lived? A kind generous person with a good heart? Or will it represent a social media fraud?  Someone faking the funk for people who don’t care whether or not you post tomorrow.  A person that used all of those around them for their own personal gain?

Life is short and no one knows what tomorrow holds.  The only certain thing we know is this moment, right now.  It’s time.  Time for you to stop being paralyzed by the unknown.  It’s time for you to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do.  Take a risk on yourself and your dreams.  Step out on faith and start that business you’ve always wanted to start.  Get out of that relationship that is not growing you and is in fact slowly killing you.  Start a new career.  Go back to school.

It’s time for you to truly live your best life NOW!

If you’re ready to take the step to start living and stop thinking about what life would be like if you were just able to do the things that you’ve always wanted, contact me and let’s discuss how I can help you start living your best life NOW and accomplishing the things you’ve always wanted to accomplish.

Start putting in the work now to make your dash count for something later.

Your Friend in your head and in real life too,

KG

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