A limiting mindset can thwart a great goal but there are other things that could be keeping you stagnant. In order to be a successful goal getter, you must first believe wholeheartedly that you can achieve the goals you set for yourself and then put foot to pavement and go get your goals. If you’re stuck, you may want to make sure that the 5 myths below are not holding you back.
Myth #1: Be Realistic About Your Goals.
Wrong! You are only limited by your beliefs in yourself and your abilities. The saying the sky is the limit can be as true as you believe it to be. Don’t limit yourself. Be unrealistic, be bold and be radical about your goals. If your goal is to be the first person to walk on the moon wearing high heels while sipping wine, go for it. Don’t let anyone tell you that your goal is impossible not even yourself. You can truly do whatever it is you first put your mind to and then follow it up with action.
Myth #2: Failure means the end of the road for your dream.
I’m glad Bill Gates didn’t let this thinking deter him, especially when his first startup, Traf-O-Data failed. Bill didn’t take that failure as a sign to hang it up and move on. He took that failure as a sign to try again and take what he learned the first time around to be more successful the second time. That thinking is what led him and his partner, Paul Allen, to create Microsoft. Don’t let failure or delay keep you from accomplishing your goals and living your dreams. Delay does not equal denial. Keep pushing, keep planning, keep working most and importantly keep goaling.
Myth #3: You don’t need to be specific about your goals, summarize.
How do you expect to be successful if you don’t even know what that success looks like? Or how you’re going to get there? How? How?
Since you haven’t answered I’ll do it for you, YOU WON’T! Get specific about your goals. Write down EXACTLY what you want and be detailed. Write down what it will look like, feel like, smell like, etc. You have to specify exactly what your goal is and why its important that you accomplish it. How will it make your life different? What steps, changes, and/or actions do you need to take to make it happen? Being specific will help you have clarity about what you want.
Myth #4: Setting goals doesn’t work, just wing it.
First of all, who raised you? If you fall into this category of thinking, punch yourself in your throat…go ahead…I’ll wait. Really, who raised you? I’m just serious.
Seriously, don’t let this be you…please! We’ve all heard the saying” if you fail to plan then you plan to fail” and if you haven’t before today…you’re welcome.
Just winging it will have you just going through life without a clue as to where you’re going or why you’re headed there. Just winging it will have you helping somebody else live their dreams while you’re just surviving. Just winging it will have you looking in the mirror at 50 trying to figure out what happened to all of those hopes and dreams you had at 20, 30 or 40. If you want to experience extraordinary growth, life and success, get extra motivated to set goals so that you have a road map on those extraordinary things that are going to happen in your life. Even if it doesn’t go exactly as planned, you’ll still get to your destination with a map.
Myth #5: You don’t have to write your goals down, just keep it all in your head, you got this.
#POW That was from me to you because if you think you won’t need to write your goals down, you need a pow, pow upside your head. Please! Please! WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN! Be intentional about your goals and the first action step is to start writing. No excuses, just do it. I don’t care if you write chicken scratch, you’re the one who will be reading it and you should be able to read your chicken scratch. You need to be able to have your goals visible to you and also be able to reference and check off the action steps and ultimately your completed goal. Seeing all of the steps you’ve completed not only gives you a visual of your accomplishments but it also sparks the motivation you need to keep pushing when times get hard.
Did any of these myths sound familiar to you? Have you been letting any of these beliefs hold you back? If so, it’s okay. There’s no better time to start new thinking like the present. Now that you know that these are myths, do different. Believe in yourself and your goals. Don’t limit yourself to only dream up to the ceiling, dream beyond the sky. Be specific about your goals and your dreams. Be so specific that you can taste, touch it, see it. Don’t be discouraged if you’re not an overnight success. Lastly and most importantly, WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN!
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There is no better time than the present to live your best life now~KG
So, I’m sitting here trying to think of the perfect words to say to convey the message I have in my heart to share. The more that I keep trying to come up with catchy, clever things to say, the more at a loss for words I am.
To say what I want to say really doesn’t need fancy words or clever phrases. The only thing that I can think to say is just the pure truth.
Recently, I’ve seen death touch the lives of almost everyone around me. It started last December when my family was faced with the sudden death of one of my close family members. She was a young 43 years old and her death was very sudden and unexpected. She was healthy and lived a very lively life.
Even though she lived life to the fullest it seemed to those around her, I don’t know if she would say that she lived her BEST life. She probably would feel that there was still things that she didn’t get to do and dreams she didn’t get to live.
Dealing with something so tragic opened my eyes and gave me just that much more motivation to go after my dreams NO MATTER What!
For the last two years, I’ve been reading books about chasing dreams and living a great life. First I read, No Matter What by Lisa Nichols and I was motivated to chase my dreams no matter what obstacles come my way. So I began the process of becoming a Life Coach. Then tragedy struck and I was temporarily knocked off of my rocker.
At the beginning of this year, 2016, I read another Lisa Nichols book, Abundance Now. It was that book that pushed me out of my pity party and into fulfilling my dream of coaching and helping people live their best lives NOW.
You see, what I realized is that most of us are so caught up in the “right now,” that we can’t see beyond our current circumstances. We get so lost in the mundane of everyday life, that we let our dreams die.
Steve Harvey recently repeated a quote that further pushed me out of my comfort zone. Steve Harvey was speaking at one of his success events and he was speaking on not letting go of your imagination and he quoted Albert Einstein:
“Imagination is everything, it is a preview of life’s coming attractions.”
If you can imagine it, you can live it or have it. God didn’t give you vision just to tease you or frustrate you. He gave you vision so that you can see what life can be if you put forth the work necessary to make the vision a reality.
Your gift was given to you so that you can share it with the world, not to hold on to it and hide it from everyone including yourself. We were all given gifts and talents that are connected to our purpose. If you’re not sharing your gift, you’re not fulfilling your purpose, the reason you were created.
At the end of the day, we all will meet the same fate. One day, this thing called life is going to come to an end for us all. Most of us, if we’ve lived a good life, will have those that we touched speak our praises and keep our memories alive. They’ll tell everyone they know about what type of person you were and everything you did to touch them, to inspire them or to help them.
Stephen Covey says in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, that you should begin with the end in mind. If you thought of your life starting with the end. And really contemplated how you wanted the end to be. What do you want people to say about you at your funeral or wake? What legacy would you like to leave behind? If you really thought about your life with the end in mind, would you say that you’re currently doing the things you want to remembered for? Are you living your best life?
Quit putting off your goals and dreams for tomorrow, tomorrow is not promised. Quit letting fear, bad relationships, lack of finances,or anything else that is a small detail to a bigger picture, keep you from living your best life.
In the end, there will probably be a headstone with your name, date of birth and date of death. If you’re lucky, maybe some nice words.
Here lies Kendra Garcia, loving wife and mother. Born date-death date. The end.
What will your dash represent for you? The dash that separates the date you entered the world and the date you exited. What type of life will that dash represent? Will if represent a life well lived? A kind generous person with a good heart? Or will it represent a social media fraud? Someone faking the funk for people who don’t care whether or not you post tomorrow. A person that used all of those around them for their own personal gain?
Life is short and no one knows what tomorrow holds. The only certain thing we know is this moment, right now. It’s time. Time for you to stop being paralyzed by the unknown. It’s time for you to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Take a risk on yourself and your dreams. Step out on faith and start that business you’ve always wanted to start. Get out of that relationship that is not growing you and is in fact slowly killing you. Start a new career. Go back to school.
It’s time for you to truly live your best life NOW!
If you’re ready to take the step to start living and stop thinking about what life would be like if you were just able to do the things that you’ve always wanted, contact me and let’s discuss how I can help you start living your best life NOW and accomplishing the things you’ve always wanted to accomplish.
Start putting in the work now to make your dash count for something later.
Your Friend in your head and in real life too,