Sitting here reflecting over the last year and the only thing I can say is that God is amazing. Never did I envision myself proclaiming to be an entrepreneur or conducting coaching sessions. You see, this around the way girl with chinks in her armor could not see that I had it in me all along. Instead, I talked myself out of walking in my purpose. What will people think? Can you do this? Will people even sign up or trust you to coach them? I limited myself based on my observations of what I believed I was lacking.
My life is not perfect. I strive everyday to get it together, in fact, I often joke with my friends about needing to get my life together. I’m not where I want to be spiritual, financially, or career-wise. I work everyday to be better than I was the day before. I pray every day for grace, mercy, forgiveness, and peace. I fall just like the next chick and I often wonder when will my time come.
Truth is, I doubted me. I was the obstacle in my own way. A year ago, today I decided to stop being that obstacle. I decided to trust what God had already given me and I decided to step out of my box and seek my purpose with everything in me. I decided that fear would no longer hold me back. Who cares what people will think. They’ll never think anything good or bad if you never step out and share with the world your God-given gift. I’m not the most extroverted person at times. I don’t do well in large crowds. If called onto speak in front of people I freeze up on the inside. I’m somewhat shy at times when the spotlight is on me. At times, I can be awkward. With all of that, I still decided to jump and put myself out thereby declaring that I’m walking in my purpose and I’m sharing my gift.
You see I always knew I wanted to help people, I just didn’t know how I would get there. I can remember doing the career assessment in undergrad and being pointed in the direction of being a life coach. I had never heard 0f a life coach and I was intrigued so I researched and researched until I was on life coach overload. Even though it was something I could see myself doing, I just couldn’t see myself being working for myself. This is not something you can apply for in most cases and then I was a 9 to 5 type of girl. I needed stability for my growing family and a steady paycheck was a priority on the list. That was almost 10 years ago. After experiencing life more and getting to the point of being uncomfortable with being comfortable, I did it. Me! The girl from the hood. The chick with 5 kids. The one they thought would never make it. They counted me out. I was told that I would never be successful because I had, had my kids so young. I was made to believe that the only way up was by climbing someone’s else’s corporate ladder. No one like me was supposed to make it because I didn’t come from a certain family or I don’t have a certain net worth. Society would have me believe that I should be lucky to just have a job. BUT GOD!
One day I realized that God has been calling me to the table but I have been avoiding the call. You see this coaching thing is not about me and how great I am but how great I can help others be. I’ve learned that each of our destinies is directly tied to the destiny of someone else and if you’re not answering the call, someone, you’re preventing them from being called. We were all put here to help uplift and empower each other. Our stories are meant to empower and inspire. We go through things so that we can grow and share our testimonies. So that the next young woman from the hood with a bleak looking future can look at someone just like her and understand that she can to do great things. She can help people with her story. She doesn’t have to settle for the box that society has already placed her in. She can overcome any obstacle thrown her way and with the proper guidance she can do great things and take the torch to empower and uplift the next.
The best thing I could’ve have done was decide at my dining table on August 21st, 2016 that I was going to answer the calling NO MATTER WHAT! I declared it out loud to the Lord and I prayed for his guidance and strength because I knew that I was in for a fight. When you step into your destiny, that’s when the real battle begins. You’ll be thrown with all types of left and right hooks by life. Things you didn’t have a problem with before will now become a problem. Your children who are normally well behaved will act out. Your marriage will be tested. Your faith will be tested. No matter the test you must stand and fight. Keep pushing. Keep believing. God didn’t call you to fall, he called you because he knew you wouldn’t fall. God knows what’s in us before we do.
I’m happy to say that 1 year later I’m still answering the call. I’m still pushing and I’m still working. I’m still working the plan. I’m still coming up with ideas to grow the business and I’m still being patient and depending completely on God for guidance. I always wanted to be the next Oprah but God is showing me that he’s grooming me and guiding me to be the only Life Strategist KG.
I’m so blessed to be able to say that I made it. I MADE IT! I hung in through some of my hardest times. Through life’s up’s and downs and I pushed through. Over the course of the last year I’ve had some wins:
- Published my first book, Real Tales of a Momprenuer
- I became the Editor for Model Mom Magazine (Ask A Life Coach & Model Woman on the rise)
- I met some awesome women living their dreams and inspiring women all around the world.
I’ve had some losses:
- Not every product or service was able to be launched within the first year.
- Events I wanted to host haven’t made it yet.
- I’m not making 6 figures. (I was for sure that I would be making 6 figures by now, dang Instagram moguls)
Ove the course of the year I’ve touched many and empowered a few but most importantly, I’ve been able to show my children that with hard work and dedication, you can accomplish anything. The joy I seen in their eyes when they saw their mother’s face on the cover of a book is priceless. The pride they have when they say my mama has her own business can’t be replaced. If for nothing more than to be a light to my children, I’m happy.
I want to say thank you. If you’re reading this, thank you for your support. Thank you to everyone who believed in my dreams and supported me with no questions asked. If you’ve purchased a book, thank you. If you’ve signed up for coaching and allowed me to help you on your journey, thank you. If you just read a post or shared my content, thank you. If you prayed, thank you. THANK YOU for helping a girl who society counted out, show the world why you should bet on me to win.
I’m looking forward to the next year and prayerfully many years to come. I’m still growing, learning, and working. I hope to help as many people as possible realize that their dreams are waiting on them to take the first step and they can do it, one foot at a time.
Your friend in your head and real life too,
Life Strategist KG♥
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Hello peeps, it’s your girl KG. As a momprenuer, I am a little shocked, (not really) by the lack of support from some of the people who I’ve either supported or consider close. Shocked because I expected them to beat the odds and actually show up for me. Not shocked because in the beginning of my momprenuer journey, I read a book that spoke about the lack of support from those closest to you and how you cannot allow that to keep YOU from working your business. I thought, surely this will not be true of my friends and family. Chile, let’s just say I accepted it and I keep it moving. In the words of Stephen Covey, I focus on my circle of influence and less on my circle of concern. This allows me to put my energy into the things I want to experience results from.
The reason I decided to write about this is for you, the reader of this blog. You need to know that this is common and that it’s nothing wrong with your or what you’re doing, considering what you’re doing is positive and legal. Don’t hold it against your loved ones. You have to remember that they are the ones that know you best and have seen your maturation process. If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had at least 1 false start. By false start I mean, you’ve started something or many things and didn’t finish or follow through. If you don’t know what I ‘m talking about, let me give you some examples:
- Remember you tried to sale that detox tea? They were your go to support system and they supported that.
- Remember when you decided you were going to be the Mary K queen and win that pink Cadillac? Your mama, sister and cousins all hosted a party.
- What about when you decided you were going to do the MLM thing (Multi level marketing)? You tried to sign up all your friends and they brother’s, sister’s cousin’s.
Does that spark any memories? Your support system, in layman’s terms, is “tired of you”. It’s okay! They don’t know that you’re super serious about your current endeavors. They don’t know that you did some soul-searching, prayed about it, meditated on it, blew a wish and made it plain. They don’t know your journey honey and you can’t expect them to jump on board everything you’re doing. If you’re serious, consistent and work hard, the support will follow.
Don’t get mad, get inspired to work harder. Don’t be bitter, be better. Some will come around and some won’t. IT’S OKAY! Everybody won’t be able to ride to the top with you. If they won’t off the bus, let them get off at their designated stop. Everybody won’t be able to make it to the end of the journey. Trust the process, work the process and enjoy those who are able to ride as far as they can go. Once you get to your destination, celebrate with those who rode with you when the ride got a little rocky. You can even invite those who didn’t make it to see your growth and your glow up.
So my tip for you this week in my Beyonce voice- Take it to another level,no passengers on my plane.”
Your friend in your head and real life too,
Life Strategist KG♥
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Having a husband and 5 children has made me HAVE to become a pro at keeping my stress level down. How many people know that it’s hard out here for an adult?
Adulting can be hard but here are 5 tips that will have you slaying stress like Buffy the vampire slayer.
Go to the corner!
The first thing you should always do when dealing with a stressful situation or feeling overwhelmed is to stop what you’re doing and take a deep breath. Taking a deep breath serves as a way for you to not only to take a moment to gather yourself, but it is also calming. Have you ever noticed how much tension you feel leave your body after taking a deep breath? It really helps. So, the next time you feel the pressure rising, stop whatever you’re doing and take a deep breath (or a few of them if you’re dealing with your husband). You’ll immediately feel calmer. Calm thinking leads to level thinking which leads to making better decisions.
Have a kick butt workout and kick stresses butt
Studies show that exercise is one of the key activities you can do to alleviate stress, tension, fat and more. There’s no way around it. No matter how much I’ve tried to run from exercise, it just keeps finding a reason to pop back into my life. I have decided to embrace my love/hate relationship with exercise and give in to the benefits that it offers.
The harder you go during your workout, the more you kick the hell out of stress. Have you ever noticed how great you feel after a workout and how your stress/tension level decreases? The better the workout the better your mood. Go hard in the gym and knock stress out!
Sleep in, it’s good for you
I know I was happy to see that more sleep could equal less stress. I’ve been trying to tell my husband for years that my need for more sleep is not laziness but beneficial for both him and me. I can truly say, I WAS RIGHT! Getting enough sleep can lead to lowering your stress levels and easing tension. Don’t feel guilty for sleeping in on the weekends or calling it quits early, your productivity dependents on it.
I remember watching the movie, ‘What’s love got to do it’ and seeing the scene where Tina Turner was meditating. I was a kid at the time and I, with my southern background, thought that she was speaking in tongue. It was funny to me at the time and I even remember mocking her saying the mantra.
Well fast forward to now as an adult and I now understand what she was doing, but more than ever, I understand why. Tina was trying to keep herself from ending up on an episode of ‘Snapped”. Meditation worked because Tina got stronger and left Ike instead of killing him.
Meditation has great effects on stress and overwhelm. I used to be stressed all the time having to deal with adulthood and trying to be everything to everybody. As a wife/mother, having to keep up with multiple schedules and still take care of myself had me in a constant state of stress.
It wasn’t until earlier this year after I got serious about meditating, that I begin to see a difference in my life and a decrease in my stress level. I’ve been able to get things accomplished that I thought I never would, all because I worked to create stronger prayer/meditation life. I could not do it along, my uncle in my head, Deepak Choppra helped me with his great mediation programs. Check out how transformational having a good meditation life can have on your life here.
Like Elsa in Frozen say’s, Let it go!
The last tip and probably the most important is to let it go. Too often we try to control everything and that need for control is one of the biggest causes of stress. Trying to control our career’s, trying to control our children, our friendships, etc. I’m tried just thinking about it!
We cannot have control over everything in life. Truth be told, we really don’t have any control over a lot of things in our lives. Now that we know that, why waste time worrying about something that you have absolutely no control over? The more you worry the more time you waste and we all know how precious time is. Once it’s gone you can’t get it back. My advice to you is, don’t sweat the small stuff.
So how do we slay stress?
- Go to timeout and breath
- Sweat rids stress
- Beauty rest is bad for stress
- Namaste the stress away
- Let it go! Let it go! Can’t hold it back anymore <—Elsa’s voice!
I can see you slaying stress and killing your goals once you implement these 5 tips! Need help? Contact me and let’s discuss a deeper strategy to get you slaying your life and accomplishing your goals!
Your friend in your head, and real life too,
Life Strategist KG
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There is something that is keeping you from fully realizing your dreams and living in your purpose. You’ve been letting it hold you back for far too long. It’s time to put an end to the hold that it’s had on you and your mind and start getting things done.
It’s the power of the “P”, procrastination. What? What did you think I was talking about? Now that you’ve gotten your mind out of the gutter, let’s see how procrastination plays a huge role in holding great people back from really stepping into their greatness.
Studies have shown that 20% or more of people identify themselves as chronic procrastinator. What are the characteristics of a chronic procrastinator? Here are a few:
- Always putting things off
- Pays bills late
- Waits to the last-minute to do everything
- Misses opportunities because you put them off until it’s too late
Does that sound familiar? Can you relate to some or all of those characteristics? If so, there is a good chance you may be a chronic procrastinator.
A Cute Planner Will Not Cure Procrastination
From the outside looking in, one would say that to cure this “problem”, the person just needs to plan better, right? Wrong. Procrastination has nothing to do with time management. A person who procrastinated can plan events and task in advance but when it comes down to executing them, they just miss the mark. It’s like planning to procrastinate. You plan to attend an event. You have all of the details, date, time, etc but you put off purchasing the ticket. That’s a waste of energy, going through the process of planning but failing to execute one of the most critical steps. Do you find yourself doing sometimes? I know I have.
You Were Not Born This Way
Some studies show that procrastination is a learned trait and not a gene you’re born with. It is through your experiences in life that you learn to be an expert procrastination. How do you change a learned trait? You don’t feed it. You do the opposite until the opposite becomes your new habit. So instead of putting off that housework that you wrote down on your to-do list, just do it. You want a better job or to start your own business, do the work. Maybe you want a new boo but have been putting off setting up your match.com account, get to it.
Keep in mind that there is no better time than now and that you’ll feel better later after having accomplished the things you want to do.
By procrastinating and putting it off, you feel bad later and end up feeling like a failure because you put it off again.
Stop Lying To Yourself
If you think you’re doing yourself a justice by telling yourself things like; “Oh it won’t hurt if I do it later.” Or, “ I just don’t feel like doing that now, it can wait.” You’re wrong. You’re doing yourself an injustice, your goals/dreams an injustice and if you have any children, you’re doing them an injustice too.
You’re setting yourself up for failure by putting off for later what you can do now. Now don’t get me wrong, I know that sometimes you’re just tired and you don’t feel like doing anything. I get it, I’m a wife, mom, business owner and full-time employee. There are some day’s I want to come home and just throw myself in the bed but the results of that are not worth the risk. For me, if I let procrastination rule my life, my house would be a mess, kids would be raising themselves and my business would not be growing.
It’s all about being honest with yourself. Ask yourself what will the consequences be if you keep putting stuff off? How will it benefit you and those important to you? Will it keep you from growing?
Once you can paint a clear picture for yourself and see how procrastination is impacting your life, your goals, and keeping you from living your dreams, I hope that motivates your to step your game up.
Stop procrastination! It hurts you and it stagnates your goals.
So what did we learn today?
- Procrastination happens, it’s very common for people to pick up this trait.
- Time management is not the cure to procrastination. procrastinations can procrastinate in a timely fashion.
- Procrastination is a learned trait. We all know that all learned traits can be unlearned and a new trait can take it’s place. It takes 21 days to create a new habit.
- procrastinations are lying to themselves and doing themselves a disservice every time they use a phrase like, “it can wait until later.”
Your friend in your head and real life too,
Life Strategist KG
P.S. If you’ve suffered from the power of the “P” and want some guidance on how to lose the hold it has on you, let’s chat.
As I sit here reviewing the goals I had set for 2016, I realize that I haven’t done as bad as I thought but I’m also not where I wanted to be at this time of 2016.
Instead of getting down on myself, I revamped and prioritized the goals I have yet to accomplish set then added action steps that’s going to help me gear up and get ready to knock those goals off of my list.
You’ve come to the last quarter of the year and you too have realized you’re not where you wanted to be by this part of the year. You’ve noticed that some of the goals you had or started have just be sitting in your journal or…I hate to say this.. in your mind (shakes), not completed.
Don’t fret, it’s not too late. As of today, you still have 69 days left in 2016 to accomplish the things you started but have yet to complete.
Here are 5 ways to ramp up your goal chasing and end 2016 with a bang!
Do you know where you envision yourself, your business or your relationship? Maybe you wanted to start a business but got overwhelmed by all of the info you started to intake from all of the ‘How To’s’ and branding experts on the web. It’s not too late to pick that dream up, dust it off, and START IT!
There’s no better time like the present to start doing the work. Get you a cute journal, pen, and cup of your favorite coffee or tea, and get to work. Start writing down YOUR vision. Be specific! Write down your goal from the what, how, and your why.
Example: I want to create a robot that will assist working mothers around the house. The robot will help with cleaning, organizing and whipping the kids in shape. I want to have the first prototype complete by Feb 1, 2017 and I am going to enlist my engineer friend,’ so and so’ and my scientist friend ‘so and so’ assist me with the this project. I want to do this because I am a working mother who understands the struggles of other working mothers and how much pressure having to do it all adds to life. This help working mothers relieve the pressure of having to do it all and free up time for them to enjoy their families. Even more important, this will be a product that working mothers can make a one-time investment in and have a lifetime of happiness.
Be as specific as possible, as detailed as possible and set actionable steps with deadlines. This exercise should be done no matter what your goal is.
Now that you know what your goals are for the remainder of the year. You’ve set your deadlines on when each goal/task should be completed. You’re ready to put a strategy in place that will set you up to be as successful as possible.
- Get out your calendar, and add your task/goals on the date in which you will complete them.
- Now schedule the time you’re going to use to work on those task.
- Block out blocks of time that you can use to focus solely on your goals and work on the task that you need to check off of your list.
Doing this will help you be intentional about your goals and the things you want to accomplish. It also helps you pre-plan for the time you’re going to need to work on your goals. No excuses about “not having time.” You’re just made time.
If you’re going to be an effective goal getter, you’re going to need energy and stamina to push through those hard times and for some long nights of working on accomplishing those goals. Ever heard the saying, ‘Get fit get rich?’ It holds some truth. Ask the most successful person if they could have done it without a strong health foundation and they’ll laugh at you. In order to get the type of transformational results you want, you have to be willing to transform into the person who is strong, mentally, physically and emotionally to do it.
Incorporating at least 30 minutes of fitness activity a day is a good start, especially if you’re not already a fitness buff like myself. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Take a walk (if the weather permits) after dinner. Take the kids to play at the park. Download a fitness app. However you do it, just do it. It will def be well worth it. You’ll notice the increase in energy and your ability to get things done. The mental clarity will help you make good decisions when chasing your goals. And before you know it, you’ll be a gym rate in no time!
If you’re going to be successful at this thing you’re going to need some motivational medicine. This is something a good book can help or some great mentors. For me it was a book that helped me kick the procrastination and excuses and be about action. ‘Do The Work’ by Steven Pressfield. I cannot tell you much this short book kicked me into overdrive to stop talking, reading, researching and searching and just start doing.
It also helps to find a good mentor or two, or three. It can be people who you look up to and admire that you know or someone you don’t know and they are your mentor in your head. I have several mentors that I know in person and even more that don’t yet know that they’re my mentor (in my head) lol. Mentors are people you can look too for advice, motivation, and to get that extra push you need to kick your goals task!
Do The Work
Now it gets simple and maybe hard at the same time…if that’s even possible. As an entrepreneur I can tell you that it is possible. Now it’s time for you to DO THE WORK! Be about that action! Make stuff happen! All of that. You have a clear view of your path for the rest of 2016, you have the steps you need to take and the tools you’ll need to get you through. You’re ready, go out and conquer the rest of 2016! Remember, it’s not how you start but how you finish and you’re ready to finish strong!
Don’t be caught out with an idea and nowhere to put it! Get your ‘KG Say’s’ Goaling Journal and always be prepared to WRITE IT DOWN!
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There is no better time than the present to live your best life now~KG
So, I’m sitting here trying to think of the perfect words to say to convey the message I have in my heart to share. The more that I keep trying to come up with catchy, clever things to say, the more at a loss for words I am.
To say what I want to say really doesn’t need fancy words or clever phrases. The only thing that I can think to say is just the pure truth.
Recently, I’ve seen death touch the lives of almost everyone around me. It started last December when my family was faced with the sudden death of one of my close family members. She was a young 43 years old and her death was very sudden and unexpected. She was healthy and lived a very lively life.
Even though she lived life to the fullest it seemed to those around her, I don’t know if she would say that she lived her BEST life. She probably would feel that there was still things that she didn’t get to do and dreams she didn’t get to live.
Dealing with something so tragic opened my eyes and gave me just that much more motivation to go after my dreams NO MATTER What!
For the last two years, I’ve been reading books about chasing dreams and living a great life. First I read, No Matter What by Lisa Nichols and I was motivated to chase my dreams no matter what obstacles come my way. So I began the process of becoming a Life Coach. Then tragedy struck and I was temporarily knocked off of my rocker.
At the beginning of this year, 2016, I read another Lisa Nichols book, Abundance Now. It was that book that pushed me out of my pity party and into fulfilling my dream of coaching and helping people live their best lives NOW.
You see, what I realized is that most of us are so caught up in the “right now,” that we can’t see beyond our current circumstances. We get so lost in the mundane of everyday life, that we let our dreams die.
Steve Harvey recently repeated a quote that further pushed me out of my comfort zone. Steve Harvey was speaking at one of his success events and he was speaking on not letting go of your imagination and he quoted Albert Einstein:
“Imagination is everything, it is a preview of life’s coming attractions.”
If you can imagine it, you can live it or have it. God didn’t give you vision just to tease you or frustrate you. He gave you vision so that you can see what life can be if you put forth the work necessary to make the vision a reality.
Your gift was given to you so that you can share it with the world, not to hold on to it and hide it from everyone including yourself. We were all given gifts and talents that are connected to our purpose. If you’re not sharing your gift, you’re not fulfilling your purpose, the reason you were created.
At the end of the day, we all will meet the same fate. One day, this thing called life is going to come to an end for us all. Most of us, if we’ve lived a good life, will have those that we touched speak our praises and keep our memories alive. They’ll tell everyone they know about what type of person you were and everything you did to touch them, to inspire them or to help them.
Stephen Covey says in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, that you should begin with the end in mind. If you thought of your life starting with the end. And really contemplated how you wanted the end to be. What do you want people to say about you at your funeral or wake? What legacy would you like to leave behind? If you really thought about your life with the end in mind, would you say that you’re currently doing the things you want to remembered for? Are you living your best life?
Quit putting off your goals and dreams for tomorrow, tomorrow is not promised. Quit letting fear, bad relationships, lack of finances,or anything else that is a small detail to a bigger picture, keep you from living your best life.
In the end, there will probably be a headstone with your name, date of birth and date of death. If you’re lucky, maybe some nice words.
Here lies Kendra Garcia, loving wife and mother. Born date-death date. The end.
What will your dash represent for you? The dash that separates the date you entered the world and the date you exited. What type of life will that dash represent? Will if represent a life well lived? A kind generous person with a good heart? Or will it represent a social media fraud? Someone faking the funk for people who don’t care whether or not you post tomorrow. A person that used all of those around them for their own personal gain?
Life is short and no one knows what tomorrow holds. The only certain thing we know is this moment, right now. It’s time. Time for you to stop being paralyzed by the unknown. It’s time for you to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Take a risk on yourself and your dreams. Step out on faith and start that business you’ve always wanted to start. Get out of that relationship that is not growing you and is in fact slowly killing you. Start a new career. Go back to school.
It’s time for you to truly live your best life NOW!
If you’re ready to take the step to start living and stop thinking about what life would be like if you were just able to do the things that you’ve always wanted, contact me and let’s discuss how I can help you start living your best life NOW and accomplishing the things you’ve always wanted to accomplish.
Start putting in the work now to make your dash count for something later.
Your Friend in your head and in real life too,