Are you a conqueror or conquistador?

Happy Thursday peeps! I know it’s been a few weeks since you’ve heard from me.  Having 5 kids means the month of May is extremely busy for me.  From wrapping up the end of the school year to birthdays and a demanding 9 to 5, your girl has been busy.

Nonetheless, I have a word that I would like to share.  With me wearing so many hats and having so many responsibilities, it is easy to be overwhelmed and feel helpless.  Sometimes, I think that life would be much easier if my dreams weren’t so big, but then I think, “what fun would that be?”

The easy thing to do is to quit, give up, tap out, and walk away.  That’s also how you stay stuck and settle for where you are right now.

Are you a conqueror (winner) or conquistador (loser)?  Do you give up at the first sign of “hard”? Do you allow your challenges to get you down and make you feel defeated?

If you’ve answered yes to any of those questions, it’ time for an attitude adjustment.  It’s time for you to train your mind to think on a different level.  Train yourself to replace every negative thought with a positive punch.  Your success depends on it.  Your goals and dreams will not work unless you do and it’s going to take a fight, it won’t be easy.

Whenever I think about giving up, taking the easy way out and settling for “normal”, I remind myself why I do this; it’s because I get to help others accomplish their goals and live their dreams.  I get to show my children what going after what you want looks like even when times get tough, you don’t give in you stand in and fight for what you want.

if you’ve been feeling down, depressed, overwhelmed, helpless, hopeless, or just down right TIRED, that’s when you dust your shoulders off, face your challenges head on and refuse to give in.  Don’t throw in the towel, use it to wipe your sweat off and keep fighting.  Finances in shambles? FIGHT!  Career not going the way you want? FIGHT!  Relationship issues got you down? FIGHT! Fight for your victory, fight your way to finish line.  NO MATTER WHAT, YOU ARE A CONQUEROR!

Don't throw in the towel, use it to wipe your sweat off and keep fighting.

 
I just wanted to drop in and share this because I too struggle on a daily to fight but my will to conquer my dreams is bigger than my will to give in.  I’m fighting and I will stand with you as you fight.  WE GOT THIS!  You can get that degree you’re working on.  You will get that awesome job that you’re not qualified for.  That career change you want to make will happen.  Your financial situation will improve.  You gotta be willing to put in the work and fight for what you want.

I pray that this blesses you and gives you the motivation you need to level up and show yourself what being a conqueror looks and feels like.

Be blessed,
KG♥

P.S. Do you have a dream but no plan?  Need help getting clear about your vision and the steps you need to take?  Let’s chat!

P.S.S. Before you go, you should check out the May issue of Model Mom Magazine.  This issue was very special to me because it features my FIRST two articles as a contributing editor. Thank you in advance for checking it out and don’t forget to send me any questions you may have for “Ask A Life Coach”.  Check out a preview below:

If you haven’t had a chance to check it out, you can access it HERE
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Here is a little something that describes what living life with a dream and a plan looks like.  You are a conqueror and you won’t accept defeat!  Enjoy!

 

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Master the art of slaying stress with these 5 tips

Having a husband and 5 children has made me HAVE to become a pro at keeping my stress level down.  How many people know that it’s hard out here for an adult?

Adulting can be hard but here are 5 tips that will have you slaying stress like Buffy the vampire slayer.

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Go to the corner!

The first thing you should always do when dealing with a stressful situation or feeling overwhelmed is to stop what you’re doing and take a deep breath.  Taking a deep breath serves as a way for you to not only to take a moment to gather yourself, but it is also calming.  Have you ever noticed how much tension you feel leave your body after taking a deep breath?  It really helps.  So, the next time you feel the pressure rising, stop whatever you’re doing and take a deep breath (or a few of them if you’re dealing with your husband). You’ll immediately feel calmer. Calm thinking leads to level thinking which leads to making better decisions.

Have a kick butt workout and kick stresses butt

Studies show that exercise is one of the key activities you can do to alleviate stress, tension, fat and more.  There’s no way around it.  No matter how much I’ve tried to run from exercise, it just keeps finding a reason to pop back into my life.  I have decided to embrace my love/hate relationship with exercise and give in to the benefits that it offers.

The harder you go during your workout, the more you kick the hell out of stress.  Have you ever noticed how great you feel after a workout and how your stress/tension level decreases?  The better the workout the better your mood.  Go hard in the gym and knock stress out!

Sleep in, it’s good for you

I know I was happy to see that more sleep could equal less stress. I’ve been trying to tell my husband for years that my need for more sleep is not laziness but beneficial for both him and me.  I can truly say, I WAS RIGHT!  Getting enough sleep can lead to lowering your stress levels and easing tension.  Don’t feel guilty for sleeping in on the weekends or calling it quits early, your productivity dependents on it.

Namaste= No-Mo-Stress

I remember watching the movie, ‘What’s love got to do it’ and seeing the scene where Tina Turner was meditating.  I was a kid at the time and I, with my southern background, thought that she was speaking in tongue.  It was funny to me at the time and I even remember mocking her saying the mantra.

Namaste= No-Mo-Stress

Well fast forward to now as an adult and I now understand what she was doing, but more than ever, I understand why.  Tina was trying to keep herself from ending up on an episode of ‘Snapped”.  Meditation worked because Tina got stronger and left Ike instead of killing him.

Meditation has great effects on stress and overwhelm.  I used to be stressed all the time having to deal with adulthood and trying to be everything to everybody.  As a wife/mother, having to keep up with multiple schedules and still take care of myself had me in a constant state of stress.

It wasn’t until earlier this year after I got serious about meditating, that I begin to see a difference in my life and a decrease in my stress level.  I’ve been able to get things accomplished that I thought I never would, all because I worked to create stronger prayer/meditation life.   I could not do it along, my uncle in my head, Deepak Choppra helped me with his great mediation programs.  Check out how transformational having a good meditation life can have on your life here.

Like Elsa in Frozen say’s, Let it go! 

The last tip and probably the most important is to let it go.  Too often we try to control everything and that need for control is one of the biggest causes of stress.  Trying to control our career’s, trying to control our children, our friendships, etc.  I’m tried just thinking about it!

We cannot have control over everything in life.  Truth be told, we really don’t have any control over a lot of things in our lives.  Now that we know that, why waste time worrying about something that you have absolutely no control over?  The more you worry the more time you waste and we all know how precious time is.  Once it’s  gone you can’t get it back.  My advice to you is, don’t sweat the small stuff.

So how do we slay stress?

  1. Go to timeout and breath
  2. Sweat rids stress
  3. Beauty rest is bad for stress
  4. Namaste the stress away
  5. Let it go! Let it go! Can’t hold it back anymore <—Elsa’s voice!
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I can see you slaying stress and killing your goals once you implement these 5 tips!  Need help? Contact me and let’s discuss a deeper strategy to get you slaying your life and accomplishing your goals!

Your friend in your head, and real life too,

Life Strategist KG

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The Power Of The “P” & How It’s Holding You Back

There is something that is keeping you from fully realizing your dreams and living in your purpose.  You’ve been letting it hold you back for far too long.  It’s time to put an end to the hold that it’s had on you and your mind and start getting things done. 

It’s the power of the “P”, procrastination.  What?  What did you think I was talking about?  Now that you’ve gotten your mind out of the gutter, let’s see how procrastination plays a huge role in holding great people back from really stepping into their greatness.

Procrastination happens!

Studies have shown that 20% or more of people identify themselves as chronic procrastinator.  What are the characteristics of a chronic procrastinator?  Here are a few:

          • Always putting things off
          • Pays bills late
          • Waits to the last-minute to do everything
          • Misses opportunities because you put them off until it’s too late

Does that sound familiar?  Can you relate to some or all of those characteristics? If so, there is a good chance you may be a chronic procrastinator.

A Cute Planner Will Not Cure Procrastination

From the outside looking in, one would say that to cure this “problem”, the person just needs to plan better, right? Wrong.  Procrastination has nothing to do with time management.  A person who procrastinated can plan events and task in advance but when it comes down to executing them, they just miss the mark.  It’s like planning to procrastinate.  You plan to attend an event.  You have all of the details, date, time, etc but you put off purchasing the ticket.  That’s a waste of energy, going through the process of planning but failing to execute one of the most critical steps.  Do you find yourself doing sometimes?  I know I have. 

You Were Not Born This Way

Some studies show that procrastination is a learned trait and not a gene you’re born with.  It is through your experiences in life that you learn to be an expert procrastination.  How do you change a learned trait? You don’t feed it.  You do the opposite until the opposite becomes your new habit.  So instead of putting off that housework that you wrote down on your to-do list, just do it.  You want a better job or to start your own business, do the work.  Maybe you want a new boo but have been putting off setting up your match.com account, get to it.

Keep in mind that there is no better time than now and that you’ll feel better later after having accomplished the things you want to do.

By procrastinating and putting it off, you feel bad later and end up feeling like a failure because you put it off again.

Stop Lying To Yourself

If you think you’re doing yourself a justice by telling yourself things like; “Oh it won’t hurt if I do it later.”  Or, “ I just don’t feel like doing that now, it can wait.”  You’re wrong.  You’re doing yourself an injustice, your goals/dreams an injustice and if you have any children, you’re doing them an injustice too.

You’re setting yourself up for failure by putting off for later what you can do now.  Now don’t get me wrong, I know that sometimes you’re just tired and you don’t feel like doing anything.  I get it, I’m a wife, mom, business owner and full-time employee.  There are some day’s I want to come home and just throw myself in the bed but the results of that are not worth the risk.  For me, if I let procrastination rule my life, my house would be a mess, kids would be raising themselves and my business would not be growing. 

It’s all about being honest with yourself.  Ask yourself what will the consequences be if you keep putting stuff off?  How will it benefit you and those important to you?  Will it keep you from growing?

Once you can paint a clear picture for yourself and see how procrastination is impacting your life, your goals, and keeping you from living your dreams, I hope that motivates your to step your game up.

Stop procrastination!  It hurts you and it stagnates your goals. 

Stop procrastination! It hurts you and it stagnates your goals.
So what did we learn today? 

    • Procrastination happens, it’s very common for people to pick up this trait.
    • Time management is not the cure to procrastination.  procrastinations can procrastinate in a timely fashion.
    • Procrastination is a learned trait.  We all know that all learned traits can be unlearned and a new trait can take it’s place.  It takes 21 days to create a new habit.
    • procrastinations are lying to themselves and doing themselves a disservice every time they use a phrase like, “it can wait until later.”

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Your friend in your head and real life too,

Life Strategist KG

P.S. If you’ve suffered from the power of the “P” and want some guidance on how to lose the hold it has on you, let’s chat.

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Grow Up To Glow Up

You ever apply for a promotion that you got really excited about?  You prepared for the interview researching the job description.  Planning your responses to possible interview questions.  You picked out your best interview suit, got your hair done and beat your face.

The day of the interview you show up to work early eager to meet with the hiring manager feeling confident about your preparation knowing the job was yours.

When the time for your interview nears, you’re all smiles, saying hello to every person you passed on the way to the conference room in which your interview is scheduled to take place.

You get there, greet the interviewer, get the formalities of introductions and brief summaries out-of-the-way.  Then the interview takes place and again, you’re confident because you’ve researched the role so you know you got this in the bag plus you’re wearing your lucky interview suit.

It doesn’t take long after speaking with the hiring manager that you realize that you applied to an executive level position and you have an entry-level mindset and skill set.  The interviewer gently let’s you down by telling you, “I’m sorry, you’re just not qualified for this position.” Is not until then that you realize you were missing some key requirements for the job like a MBA degree and you only have a certificate of completion rom the typing class you took right before you started with the company.

So you tread back to your work space feeling defeated and ready to quit and try your luck with a new employer but you’re missing the fact that no matter where you go, if you’re not qualified for a high level position which you desire, you’re not going to have much luck with a different employer either. Continue reading “Grow Up To Glow Up”

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