Sitting here reflecting over the last year and the only thing I can say is that God is amazing. Never did I envision myself proclaiming to be an entrepreneur or conducting coaching sessions. You see, this around the way girl with chinks in her armor could not see that I had it in me all along. Instead, I talked myself out of walking in my purpose. What will people think? Can you do this? Will people even sign up or trust you to coach them? I limited myself based on my observations of what I believed I was lacking.
My life is not perfect. I strive everyday to get it together, in fact, I often joke with my friends about needing to get my life together. I’m not where I want to be spiritual, financially, or career-wise. I work everyday to be better than I was the day before. I pray every day for grace, mercy, forgiveness, and peace. I fall just like the next chick and I often wonder when will my time come.
Truth is, I doubted me. I was the obstacle in my own way. A year ago, today I decided to stop being that obstacle. I decided to trust what God had already given me and I decided to step out of my box and seek my purpose with everything in me. I decided that fear would no longer hold me back. Who cares what people will think. They’ll never think anything good or bad if you never step out and share with the world your God-given gift. I’m not the most extroverted person at times. I don’t do well in large crowds. If called onto speak in front of people I freeze up on the inside. I’m somewhat shy at times when the spotlight is on me. At times, I can be awkward. With all of that, I still decided to jump and put myself out thereby declaring that I’m walking in my purpose and I’m sharing my gift.
You see I always knew I wanted to help people, I just didn’t know how I would get there. I can remember doing the career assessment in undergrad and being pointed in the direction of being a life coach. I had never heard 0f a life coach and I was intrigued so I researched and researched until I was on life coach overload. Even though it was something I could see myself doing, I just couldn’t see myself being working for myself. This is not something you can apply for in most cases and then I was a 9 to 5 type of girl. I needed stability for my growing family and a steady paycheck was a priority on the list. That was almost 10 years ago. After experiencing life more and getting to the point of being uncomfortable with being comfortable, I did it. Me! The girl from the hood. The chick with 5 kids. The one they thought would never make it. They counted me out. I was told that I would never be successful because I had, had my kids so young. I was made to believe that the only way up was by climbing someone’s else’s corporate ladder. No one like me was supposed to make it because I didn’t come from a certain family or I don’t have a certain net worth. Society would have me believe that I should be lucky to just have a job. BUT GOD!
One day I realized that God has been calling me to the table but I have been avoiding the call. You see this coaching thing is not about me and how great I am but how great I can help others be. I’ve learned that each of our destinies is directly tied to the destiny of someone else and if you’re not answering the call, someone, you’re preventing them from being called. We were all put here to help uplift and empower each other. Our stories are meant to empower and inspire. We go through things so that we can grow and share our testimonies. So that the next young woman from the hood with a bleak looking future can look at someone just like her and understand that she can to do great things. She can help people with her story. She doesn’t have to settle for the box that society has already placed her in. She can overcome any obstacle thrown her way and with the proper guidance she can do great things and take the torch to empower and uplift the next.
The best thing I could’ve have done was decide at my dining table on August 21st, 2016 that I was going to answer the calling NO MATTER WHAT! I declared it out loud to the Lord and I prayed for his guidance and strength because I knew that I was in for a fight. When you step into your destiny, that’s when the real battle begins. You’ll be thrown with all types of left and right hooks by life. Things you didn’t have a problem with before will now become a problem. Your children who are normally well behaved will act out. Your marriage will be tested. Your faith will be tested. No matter the test you must stand and fight. Keep pushing. Keep believing. God didn’t call you to fall, he called you because he knew you wouldn’t fall. God knows what’s in us before we do.
I’m happy to say that 1 year later I’m still answering the call. I’m still pushing and I’m still working. I’m still working the plan. I’m still coming up with ideas to grow the business and I’m still being patient and depending completely on God for guidance. I always wanted to be the next Oprah but God is showing me that he’s grooming me and guiding me to be the only Life Strategist KG.
I’m so blessed to be able to say that I made it. I MADE IT! I hung in through some of my hardest times. Through life’s up’s and downs and I pushed through. Over the course of the last year I’ve had some wins:
- Published my first book, Real Tales of a Momprenuer
- I became the Editor for Model Mom Magazine (Ask A Life Coach & Model Woman on the rise)
- I met some awesome women living their dreams and inspiring women all around the world.
I’ve had some losses:
- Not every product or service was able to be launched within the first year.
- Events I wanted to host haven’t made it yet.
- I’m not making 6 figures. (I was for sure that I would be making 6 figures by now, dang Instagram moguls)
Ove the course of the year I’ve touched many and empowered a few but most importantly, I’ve been able to show my children that with hard work and dedication, you can accomplish anything. The joy I seen in their eyes when they saw their mother’s face on the cover of a book is priceless. The pride they have when they say my mama has her own business can’t be replaced. If for nothing more than to be a light to my children, I’m happy.
I want to say thank you. If you’re reading this, thank you for your support. Thank you to everyone who believed in my dreams and supported me with no questions asked. If you’ve purchased a book, thank you. If you’ve signed up for coaching and allowed me to help you on your journey, thank you. If you just read a post or shared my content, thank you. If you prayed, thank you. THANK YOU for helping a girl who society counted out, show the world why you should bet on me to win.
I’m looking forward to the next year and prayerfully many years to come. I’m still growing, learning, and working. I hope to help as many people as possible realize that their dreams are waiting on them to take the first step and they can do it, one foot at a time.
Your friend in your head and real life too,
Life Strategist KG♥
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Life can be so hectic with all that we typically have on our plates. Everyday you’re racing out the door to beat traffic, drop kids off, get to work and struggling to be your best self. This can leave you feeling overworked, under-appreciated, frustrated, tired, down and out. We’ve all been there, more than once. I bought the t-shirt, forgot about and bought it again.
Hi, my name is Kendra and I am the tired club president.
Operating in this space will drain you and keep you from living your best life. You can’t enjoy or live your best life if you’re operating at less than half of your best self. Here are 3 simple keys that will help you relax, reset, and refocus without taking too much of your already limited time.
You’re sitting at your desk and an email hit’s your already overloaded inbox from a needy client that reads, “URGENT”. Immediately your blood rushes to your head, the coffee you drank less than an hour ago no longer has its effect and you just want to scream. Before you type that nasty email response to your client who thinks that every minuscule need is URGENT, stop.
Take the time to just Pause. Take a moment to breath in the moment and let out all of the negative emotions and energy you’re feeling. Do this a couple of times to make sure you’ve gotten all of the negativity out of your bones before you proceed. This will help you calm yourself and rid yourself of the negative energy you feel at that moment. After you’ve taken the needed amount of breathes to put your mind back at ease, you’re ready for the next step.
Now you’re ready to reflect on the what, why, and how. What is causing you this stress, anxiety, or negative energy? Why is it causing you to feel the way you feel and why are you letting it? How should you respond? By taking the time to reflect, you give yourself time to really think about things from a different perspective, than you would have had before. You allow yourself the time to think things through and this allows you to refocus your energy in a more positive way. Ever heard the saying, ‘Think before you_?” That’s what this step allows you to do, think before you act or speak so that you’re coming from the best possible place at all times. Now that you’ve taken the time to take a breather and reflect, it’s time to act on YOUR best behalf before you act on anyone else’s.
Before you respond, take the time to pray or meditate. Whatever you do in your own spiritual time, do that in this moment. This will give you time to seek spiritual guidance. This is the best way to ensure that you’re always coming from the best place possible while dealing with life’s issue’s.
In order to live your best life, you’ve got to be your best self. Like the Snicker’s commercial, you’re not yourself when you’re hungry, you’re not yourself when you’re hungry for good internal vibes.
That’s it! In those 3 steps, you can create positive vibes at all times. These steps can help you ensure that you always take a proactive approach instead of being a reactive mess.
Remember the three key steps, PAUSE, PONDER, AND PRAY!
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There is no better time than the present to live your best life now~KG
So, I’m sitting here trying to think of the perfect words to say to convey the message I have in my heart to share. The more that I keep trying to come up with catchy, clever things to say, the more at a loss for words I am.
To say what I want to say really doesn’t need fancy words or clever phrases. The only thing that I can think to say is just the pure truth.
Recently, I’ve seen death touch the lives of almost everyone around me. It started last December when my family was faced with the sudden death of one of my close family members. She was a young 43 years old and her death was very sudden and unexpected. She was healthy and lived a very lively life.
Even though she lived life to the fullest it seemed to those around her, I don’t know if she would say that she lived her BEST life. She probably would feel that there was still things that she didn’t get to do and dreams she didn’t get to live.
Dealing with something so tragic opened my eyes and gave me just that much more motivation to go after my dreams NO MATTER What!
For the last two years, I’ve been reading books about chasing dreams and living a great life. First I read, No Matter What by Lisa Nichols and I was motivated to chase my dreams no matter what obstacles come my way. So I began the process of becoming a Life Coach. Then tragedy struck and I was temporarily knocked off of my rocker.
At the beginning of this year, 2016, I read another Lisa Nichols book, Abundance Now. It was that book that pushed me out of my pity party and into fulfilling my dream of coaching and helping people live their best lives NOW.
You see, what I realized is that most of us are so caught up in the “right now,” that we can’t see beyond our current circumstances. We get so lost in the mundane of everyday life, that we let our dreams die.
Steve Harvey recently repeated a quote that further pushed me out of my comfort zone. Steve Harvey was speaking at one of his success events and he was speaking on not letting go of your imagination and he quoted Albert Einstein:
“Imagination is everything, it is a preview of life’s coming attractions.”
If you can imagine it, you can live it or have it. God didn’t give you vision just to tease you or frustrate you. He gave you vision so that you can see what life can be if you put forth the work necessary to make the vision a reality.
Your gift was given to you so that you can share it with the world, not to hold on to it and hide it from everyone including yourself. We were all given gifts and talents that are connected to our purpose. If you’re not sharing your gift, you’re not fulfilling your purpose, the reason you were created.
At the end of the day, we all will meet the same fate. One day, this thing called life is going to come to an end for us all. Most of us, if we’ve lived a good life, will have those that we touched speak our praises and keep our memories alive. They’ll tell everyone they know about what type of person you were and everything you did to touch them, to inspire them or to help them.
Stephen Covey says in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, that you should begin with the end in mind. If you thought of your life starting with the end. And really contemplated how you wanted the end to be. What do you want people to say about you at your funeral or wake? What legacy would you like to leave behind? If you really thought about your life with the end in mind, would you say that you’re currently doing the things you want to remembered for? Are you living your best life?
Quit putting off your goals and dreams for tomorrow, tomorrow is not promised. Quit letting fear, bad relationships, lack of finances,or anything else that is a small detail to a bigger picture, keep you from living your best life.
In the end, there will probably be a headstone with your name, date of birth and date of death. If you’re lucky, maybe some nice words.
Here lies Kendra Garcia, loving wife and mother. Born date-death date. The end.
What will your dash represent for you? The dash that separates the date you entered the world and the date you exited. What type of life will that dash represent? Will if represent a life well lived? A kind generous person with a good heart? Or will it represent a social media fraud? Someone faking the funk for people who don’t care whether or not you post tomorrow. A person that used all of those around them for their own personal gain?
Life is short and no one knows what tomorrow holds. The only certain thing we know is this moment, right now. It’s time. Time for you to stop being paralyzed by the unknown. It’s time for you to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Take a risk on yourself and your dreams. Step out on faith and start that business you’ve always wanted to start. Get out of that relationship that is not growing you and is in fact slowly killing you. Start a new career. Go back to school.
It’s time for you to truly live your best life NOW!
If you’re ready to take the step to start living and stop thinking about what life would be like if you were just able to do the things that you’ve always wanted, contact me and let’s discuss how I can help you start living your best life NOW and accomplishing the things you’ve always wanted to accomplish.
Start putting in the work now to make your dash count for something later.
Your Friend in your head and in real life too,