Are you dreams fueled by passion or hobby?

Having a passion for something is way different than liking to do something in your spare time (hobby).  Knowing the difference in the two can be the difference in understanding your WHY and also understanding why you may not be successful at chasing what you think is your dream.  Let’s break down the difference between your passion and your hobby(s) and get you on the right track.

Understanding:

A hobby is an activity that you do regularly usually during your leisure time.  These are things that you “like” to do.  They can also be relaxing to your mind so you may do them as a way to escape the real world.  A great example of a hobby is, liking to shop.  You may love to shop for yourself in your leisure time but what if you had to do it for other people, for a living?  Would you get the same pleasure out of it?

Now let’s get to know passion.  Passion is something that you can’t control it’s like a burning desire to do something and the feeling won’t go away until you’ve fulfilled that burning desire. The definition of passion is a strong and barely controllable emotion.  If your passion was shopping, you would have a desire to shop and would enjoy doing it all of the time even for other people and even if you weren’t getting paid to do it.

To make it even clearer, a hobby is something that you “like” to and passion is something that you have a “desire” to do.

Why is this important?

You may be asking yourself, why the elementary lesson on hobby vs. passion, right?  Give me time, I’m taking you somewhere really important.

You see, I’ve noticed that there are several people wasting time and energy chasing hobbies and trying to make them into passions.  The problem here is that the “like” for hobbies quickly fades when it becomes something that is no longer fun to do.  So many people are trying to create businesses fueled by their “like” for a hobby and then they’re confused when it doesn’t work out.  It’s because they’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole and it was never meant to fit.

I’ve also been guilty of this.  I’ve had so many false starts I can’t name them all.  I “like’ makeup so I tried my hand at being a makeup consultant and selling Avon, that was a fail.  I got tired of chasing people to deliver their products and also spending all of the money I did make on personal products.   Can we say FAIL.

What about that time I decided I was going to sell natural virgin human hair?  Don’t get me wrong, I love hair just like the next chick; however, the fact that I regularly rock my naturally curly fro and know little to nothing about good weave didn’t set me up for success.  Needless to say, that was a FAIL.

I remember this one time, I found this site where I could sign up to sell accessories with little to no start-up cost.  I LOVE accessories but that love quickly faded when I realized that my dreams of being the accessory queen were going to take more than me creating a few Instagram post in order to make a sale.  Epic FAIL.

The common denominator in all of my shots in the dark is that they were all things that just “liked” to do. I had no passion for any of them.  I like makeup but I don’t see myself being the makeup artist of the year or creating a cosmetics line.   I don’t know enough about bundles to be a weaveologist and clearly, the effort was not there for me to become the next accessory mogul.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.  I know this to be 1000% true as you can see from my many failed attempts.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.

 

When I decided to step out of my comfort zone and chase my dreams of helping others dreams come true 1 person at a time, I had no choice.  There is this burning desire deep inside of me that forces me to think about business ALL OF THE TIME.  It forces me to work when I’m really tired and just want to catch some beauty rest.  It causes me to feel guilty when I’m not pushing myself hard enough or putting in more of my time to accomplish my goals.  It gives me the push through that I need when times get tough.  It helps me figure out how to juggle being a wife and mom all while working towards accomplishing my business goals.  My passion keeps me up at night thinking about ways to improve my skills and services.  I’m constantly thinking of ways to grow my business or thinking of how to create value for my clients.  It gives me the motivation to keep working even when it feels like no one is noticing.  This passion is something I can’t easily get rid of and it fuels me.   It gives me the drive I need to keep going.

When you have a vision and a dream, it’s going to take more than a “like” to push you through the hard times.  Don’t get caught up in how glamorous some of these chicks make it look on social media.  Trust me, it’s not always glamorous, hell it’s not glamorous most of the time.   Once the “like” wears off and you realize how much work it’s going to take for you to make your dream a reality, it’s going to take love and passion to push you to the next level.  Think of it like a marriage, once the honey moon phase is over, that’s when the real work kicks in.

Be prepared for the reality of what it will take to accomplish your goals and make your dream your reality.  Know that it’s going to take some strong push through muscles and perseverance to get you through the tough times.  There will be times when you will think about walking away and throwing your hands up.  Those are the times you will need your passion to make you go harder.

If you’re building your dreams off of “like”, let it go so that you can find that thing that you love.  That thing that you would do even if no one paid you.  That thing that burns deep in your belly and you can’t shake it.  That is what you will need to successfully make your dreams a reality.

I hope that you’ve found your passion in life and if not, don’t worry, it will find you when the time is right.

Sincerely, Your friend in your head and real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

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Real Tales: 5 Things I’ve learned so far on my #Momprenuer journey

If you’re reading this, it’s not too late!  That is one of my favorite album titles by my favorite and probably one of the only rappers I listen to, Drake.  It is very fitting for this post.  This is a cautionary tale of what it truly take to not only be an entrepreneur but a Momprener.

I started my entrepreneurial journey less than a year ago and I can tell you it’s nothing that I every expected it to be.  Based on the boss chicks I follow on social media, they made it look easy. Their beautiful pictures make it look oh so glamorous.  Their website’s are flawless and their email campaigns are effective and well written.  They pull you in with the glamour of it all and how seamless they make it look.  No one every tells you the dark side of being a boss chick.

Trust me there is a dark side.  This journey is not all rainbows and unicorns.  I want to share 5 things I’ve learned so far and as long as you know these things from the start, you will be able to survive the dark side of chasing your dreams.  Let’s go!

  1. A Diva is the definition of a female hustler
    • Queen bey said is right in her ‘Diva’ song.  In order to make it as an entrepreneur you’re going to have to put on your hustler cap and grind.  You have to be willing to put in the work.  I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad new but your cute face will not be enough to build a thriving business.  It may be enough to get you through the door but your talent will have to kick in at some point.  You have to be willing to do the work.  On those days you’re having, “just one of dem days” <—Monica voice, you’re going to have to kick in your push through muscle and work through the days you feel down, tired and plain old exhausted.  Get your hustle on and watch them blessings from your hard work pour in.
  2. If you fail to plan, plan to fail~ Benjamin Franklin
    • Ya’ll are going to get tired of me saying this but I don’t care, WRITE IT DOWN! Be intentional about what you want and how you’re going to get there.  Get you a cute little goal journal, grab your favorite cup of coffee or wine and get to scribbling.  Yep, we’re going ole school.
    • Writing down the things you want to accomplish makes them real.  It also makes your goals tangible because you can literally hold them in your hands via your goal journal.
    • By writing them down, they become action items that you will then put deadlines to.
    • I hate to tell you this but even the overnight successes had a plan to get there.  Success just doesn’t happen, you plan for it.  If you’ve ever listened to or watched an interview with Nicki Minaj, she has mentioned several times how she planned for success back when it was just a thought and look at her now.  Don’t fail because you couldn’t take the time to plan.
  3. Don’t let life kill your vibe
    • I can’t tell you how many times I hear my clients tell me why they “can’t” do something and it always has something to do with regular ole life.
      • I can’t eat right to get to my weight loss goal, I’m too stressed out.
      • I can’t start my business, I don’t have any money.
      • I can’t go back to school, where will I find the time.
    • My answer for every “can’t” is the same, ” if you want it bad enough you won’t let a “can’t” stand in your way, you’ll subtract the “T” and make a way.
    • We put time and energy into the things WE make important. Life will always be life, hitting from all angles with problems, issues and up’s and down’s.  You have to put your BS blockers on and push through all that life sometimes throws at you.  If you want to start a business, do it.  You want to go back to school and get that degree you’ve put off, do it.  JUST DO IT! Life will always be happening but you have the control to go after and accomplish your goals and dreams with a “no matter what” attitude.
    • Every accomplishment I’ve had up to this point all started with me speaking to myself and my goals saying, “no matter what, I’m going to do this and I’m going accomplish this.”  It was this mindset that allowed to obtain my bachelors degree while being a full-time working mom. Life didn’t stop for me, I still had bills coming in and kids to feed.  I didn’t let the trials of life throw me off of my grind, I pushed through my obstacles and made it happen.  You can too!
  4. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals
    • Let’s be clear, I’m not saying getting all new friends or family.  What I am saying is to join up with other like-minded people who understand the struggles you’re going to experience on your journey.  These are going to be some of your biggest supporters, motivators and people who inspire you.
    • You know the saying, “positive vibes only”, this is going to play a huge roll as you go through the day-to-day up’s and downs that come with building a business or brand.  You’re going to need all of the positivity and uplifting you can get.
    • I cannot tell you how many times I’ve found myself at a crossroad or just feeling overwhelmed and ready to throw in the towel.  It was my support system of other women and mom entrepreneurs who encouraged me to keep moving.  Reassured me that what I’m doing is inspiring and impacting others.
    • You will find this support system through networking and being intentional, there’s that word again.  Be intentional about the company you surround yourself with especially when you’re on a mission.
  5. Don’t sweat the small stuff
    • Perfection is a myth people.  I hate to break it to you but you can strive for perfection as you should, but you’ll never reach it.  Don’t let being perfect keep you from being or doing the things you want to do.  It’s that simple, kind of. We all want everything to work out as perfectly as we plan them to but that’s just a part of life you’re going to have to accept, it wont.
    • The good news is, you can perfect your craft as you build your business.  You can perfect your website all while helping clients and making an impact.  You can learn from things as you grow and make adjustments to do better the next time around.  You can grow as you go.  Guess what, nobody is going to hold it against you.  Half the time nobody knows that things didn’t turn out exactly how YOU wanted them to.
    • Don’t let small details keep you from big wins!

What did we learn today?

  • Get ready to werk, werk, werk, werk!
  • Intentionally plan to be successful.
  • Life happens, so what.  Don’t let it keep you from being great.
  • Birds of a feather flock together, surround yourself with like-minded people.
  • Ish happens, don’t sweat the small stuff.

I’ve had the privilege and the honor to become a published author, yay! It was these five tips that helped me accomplish this goal that I’ve had for a long time.  I teamed up with 12 other like-minded Momprenuers and we birthed my new book, ‘Real Tales of a Momprenuer, Business, Babies, Balance’.  To get more tips on what it will take to reach the finish line of your goals, pick up your copy by clicking the link below!

Pick up your copy today!

Have questions or need guidance on getting to the next step? Hit me up and let’s get you over the hurdle and dreaming with your eyes wide open.

Your friend in your head and in real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

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