Happy 1 Year Busi-Versary! I made it, now what?

Sitting here reflecting over the last year and the only thing I can say is that God is amazing.  Never did I envision myself proclaiming to be an entrepreneur or conducting coaching sessions.  You see, this around the way girl with chinks in her armor could not see that I had it in me all along.  Instead, I talked myself out of walking in my purpose.  What will people think?  Can you do this?  Will people even sign up or trust you to coach them?  I limited myself based on my observations of what I believed I was lacking.

My life is not perfect.  I strive everyday to get it together, in fact, I often joke with my friends about needing to get my life together.  I’m not where I want to be spiritual, financially, or career-wise.  I work everyday to be better than I was the day before.  I pray every day for grace, mercy, forgiveness, and peace.  I fall just like the next chick and I often wonder when will my time come.

Truth is, I doubted me.  I was the obstacle in my own way.  A year ago, today I decided to stop being that obstacle.  I decided to trust what God had already given me and I decided to step out of my box and seek my purpose with everything in me.  I decided that fear would no longer hold me back.  Who cares what people will think.  They’ll never think anything good or bad if you never step out and share with the world your God-given gift.  I’m not the most extroverted person at times.  I don’t do well in large crowds.  If called onto speak in front of people I freeze up on the inside.  I’m somewhat shy at times when the spotlight is on me.  At times, I can be awkward.  With all of that, I still decided to jump and put myself out thereby declaring that I’m walking in my purpose and I’m sharing my gift.

You see I always knew I wanted to help people, I just didn’t know how I would get there.  I can remember doing the career assessment in undergrad and being pointed in the direction of being a life coach.  I had never heard 0f a life coach and I was intrigued so I researched and researched until I was on life coach overload.  Even though it was something I could see myself doing, I just couldn’t see myself being working for myself.  This is not something you can apply for in most cases and then I was a 9 to 5 type of girl.  I needed stability for my growing family and a steady paycheck was a priority on the list.  That was almost 10 years ago.  After experiencing life more and getting to the point of being uncomfortable with being comfortable, I did it.  Me!  The girl from the hood.  The chick with 5 kids.  The one they thought would never make it.  They counted me out.  I was told that I would never be successful because I had, had my kids so young.  I was made to believe that the only way up was by climbing someone’s else’s corporate ladder.  No one like me was supposed to make it because I didn’t come from a certain family or I don’t have a certain net worth.  Society would have me believe that I should be lucky to just have a job.  BUT GOD!

One day I realized that God has been calling me to the table but I have been avoiding the call.  You see this coaching thing is not about me and how great I am but how great I can help others be.  I’ve learned that each of our destinies is directly tied to the destiny of someone else and if you’re not answering the call, someone, you’re preventing them from being called.  We were all put here to help uplift and empower each other.  Our stories are meant to empower and inspire.  We go through things so that we can grow and share our testimonies.  So that the next young woman from the hood with a bleak looking future can look at someone just like her and understand that she can to do great things.  She can help people with her story.  She doesn’t have to settle for the box that society has already placed her in.  She can overcome any obstacle thrown her way and with the proper guidance she can do great things and take the torch to empower and uplift the next.

The best thing I could’ve have done was decide at my dining table on August 21st, 2016 that I was going to answer the calling NO MATTER WHAT! I declared it out loud to the Lord and I prayed for his guidance and strength because I knew that I was in for a fight.  When you step into your destiny, that’s when the real battle begins.  You’ll be thrown with all types of left and right hooks by life.  Things you didn’t have a problem with before will now become a problem.  Your children who are normally well behaved will act out.  Your marriage will be tested.  Your faith will be tested.  No matter the test you must stand and fight.  Keep pushing.  Keep believing.  God didn’t call you to fall, he called you because he knew you wouldn’t fall.  God knows what’s in us before we do.

I’m happy to say that 1 year later I’m still answering the call.  I’m still pushing and I’m still working.  I’m still working the plan.  I’m still coming up with ideas to grow the business and I’m still being patient and depending completely on God for guidance.  I always wanted to be the next Oprah but God is showing me that he’s grooming me and guiding me to be the only Life Strategist KG.

I always wanted to be the next Oprah but God is showing me that he’s grooming me and guiding me to be the only Life Strategist KG.

I’m so blessed to be able to say that I made it.  I MADE IT! I hung in through some of my hardest times.  Through life’s up’s and downs and I pushed through.  Over the course of the last year I’ve had some wins:

  • Published my first book, Real Tales of a Momprenuer
  • I became the Editor for Model Mom Magazine (Ask A Life Coach & Model Woman on the rise)
  • I met some awesome women living their dreams and inspiring women all around the world.

I’ve had some losses:

  • Not every product or service was able to be launched within the first year.
  • Events I wanted to host haven’t made it yet.
  • I’m not making 6 figures. (I was for sure that I would be making 6 figures by now, dang Instagram moguls)

Ove the course of the year I’ve touched many and empowered a few but most importantly, I’ve been able to show my children that with hard work and dedication, you can accomplish anything.  The joy I seen in their eyes when they saw their mother’s face on the cover of a book is priceless.  The pride they have when they say my mama has her own business can’t be replaced.  If for nothing more than to be a light to my children, I’m happy.

I want to say thank you.  If you’re reading this, thank you for your support.  Thank you to everyone who believed in my dreams and supported me with no questions asked.  If you’ve purchased a book, thank you.  If you’ve signed up for coaching and allowed me to help you on your journey, thank you.  If you just read a post or shared my content, thank you.  If you prayed, thank you.  THANK YOU for helping a girl who society counted out, show the world why you should bet on me to win.

I’m looking forward to the next year and prayerfully many years to come.  I’m still growing, learning, and working.  I hope to help as many people as possible realize that their dreams are waiting on them to take the first step and they can do it, one foot at a time.

 

Your friend in your head and real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

P.S. If you’re reading this, it’s not too late.  Click the link below to schedule your free coaching sessions so that you can stop sitting on your gift but start walking in your purpose.  Someone is waiting on you, let’s take the first step.

 

 

 

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Are you dreams fueled by passion or hobby?

Having a passion for something is way different than liking to do something in your spare time (hobby).  Knowing the difference in the two can be the difference in understanding your WHY and also understanding why you may not be successful at chasing what you think is your dream.  Let’s break down the difference between your passion and your hobby(s) and get you on the right track.

Understanding:

A hobby is an activity that you do regularly usually during your leisure time.  These are things that you “like” to do.  They can also be relaxing to your mind so you may do them as a way to escape the real world.  A great example of a hobby is, liking to shop.  You may love to shop for yourself in your leisure time but what if you had to do it for other people, for a living?  Would you get the same pleasure out of it?

Now let’s get to know passion.  Passion is something that you can’t control it’s like a burning desire to do something and the feeling won’t go away until you’ve fulfilled that burning desire. The definition of passion is a strong and barely controllable emotion.  If your passion was shopping, you would have a desire to shop and would enjoy doing it all of the time even for other people and even if you weren’t getting paid to do it.

To make it even clearer, a hobby is something that you “like” to and passion is something that you have a “desire” to do.

Why is this important?

You may be asking yourself, why the elementary lesson on hobby vs. passion, right?  Give me time, I’m taking you somewhere really important.

You see, I’ve noticed that there are several people wasting time and energy chasing hobbies and trying to make them into passions.  The problem here is that the “like” for hobbies quickly fades when it becomes something that is no longer fun to do.  So many people are trying to create businesses fueled by their “like” for a hobby and then they’re confused when it doesn’t work out.  It’s because they’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole and it was never meant to fit.

I’ve also been guilty of this.  I’ve had so many false starts I can’t name them all.  I “like’ makeup so I tried my hand at being a makeup consultant and selling Avon, that was a fail.  I got tired of chasing people to deliver their products and also spending all of the money I did make on personal products.   Can we say FAIL.

What about that time I decided I was going to sell natural virgin human hair?  Don’t get me wrong, I love hair just like the next chick; however, the fact that I regularly rock my naturally curly fro and know little to nothing about good weave didn’t set me up for success.  Needless to say, that was a FAIL.

I remember this one time, I found this site where I could sign up to sell accessories with little to no start-up cost.  I LOVE accessories but that love quickly faded when I realized that my dreams of being the accessory queen were going to take more than me creating a few Instagram post in order to make a sale.  Epic FAIL.

The common denominator in all of my shots in the dark is that they were all things that just “liked” to do. I had no passion for any of them.  I like makeup but I don’t see myself being the makeup artist of the year or creating a cosmetics line.   I don’t know enough about bundles to be a weaveologist and clearly, the effort was not there for me to become the next accessory mogul.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.  I know this to be 1000% true as you can see from my many failed attempts.

If you’re not passionate about your dreams, they’re not your dreams.

 

When I decided to step out of my comfort zone and chase my dreams of helping others dreams come true 1 person at a time, I had no choice.  There is this burning desire deep inside of me that forces me to think about business ALL OF THE TIME.  It forces me to work when I’m really tired and just want to catch some beauty rest.  It causes me to feel guilty when I’m not pushing myself hard enough or putting in more of my time to accomplish my goals.  It gives me the push through that I need when times get tough.  It helps me figure out how to juggle being a wife and mom all while working towards accomplishing my business goals.  My passion keeps me up at night thinking about ways to improve my skills and services.  I’m constantly thinking of ways to grow my business or thinking of how to create value for my clients.  It gives me the motivation to keep working even when it feels like no one is noticing.  This passion is something I can’t easily get rid of and it fuels me.   It gives me the drive I need to keep going.

When you have a vision and a dream, it’s going to take more than a “like” to push you through the hard times.  Don’t get caught up in how glamorous some of these chicks make it look on social media.  Trust me, it’s not always glamorous, hell it’s not glamorous most of the time.   Once the “like” wears off and you realize how much work it’s going to take for you to make your dream a reality, it’s going to take love and passion to push you to the next level.  Think of it like a marriage, once the honey moon phase is over, that’s when the real work kicks in.

Be prepared for the reality of what it will take to accomplish your goals and make your dream your reality.  Know that it’s going to take some strong push through muscles and perseverance to get you through the tough times.  There will be times when you will think about walking away and throwing your hands up.  Those are the times you will need your passion to make you go harder.

If you’re building your dreams off of “like”, let it go so that you can find that thing that you love.  That thing that you would do even if no one paid you.  That thing that burns deep in your belly and you can’t shake it.  That is what you will need to successfully make your dreams a reality.

I hope that you’ve found your passion in life and if not, don’t worry, it will find you when the time is right.

Sincerely, Your friend in your head and real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

 

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The Year Is Running Out! 5 Ways To End 2016 With A Bang

As I sit here reviewing the goals I had set for 2016, I realize that I haven’t done as bad as I thought but I’m also not where I wanted to be at this time of 2016.

Instead of getting down on myself, I revamped and prioritized the goals I have yet to accomplish set then added action steps that’s going to help me gear up and get ready to knock those goals off of my list.

You’ve come to the last quarter of the year and you too have realized you’re not where you wanted to be by this part of the year. You’ve noticed that some of the goals you had or started have just be sitting in your journal or…I hate to say this.. in your mind (shakes), not completed.

Don’t fret, it’s not too late.  As of today, you still have 69 days left in 2016 to accomplish the things you started but have yet to complete.

Here are 5 ways to ramp up your goal chasing and end 2016 with a bang!

As of today, you still have 69 days left in 2016 to accomplish the things you started but have yet to complete.

Get Clarity

Do you know where you envision yourself, your business or your relationship?  Maybe you wanted to start a business but got overwhelmed by all of the info you started to intake from all of the ‘How To’s’ and branding experts on the web.  It’s not too late to pick that dream up, dust it off, and START IT!

There’s no better time like the present to start doing the work.  Get you a cute journal, pen, and cup of your favorite coffee or tea, and get to work.  Start writing down YOUR vision.  Be specific!  Write down your goal from the what, how, and your why.

Example: I want to create a robot that will assist working mothers around the house.  The robot will help with cleaning, organizing and whipping the kids in shape.  I want to have the first prototype complete by Feb 1, 2017 and I am going to enlist my engineer friend,’ so and so’ and my scientist friend ‘so and so’ assist me with the this project.  I want to do this because I am a working mother who understands the struggles of other working mothers and how much pressure having to do it all adds to life. This help working mothers relieve the pressure of having to do it all and free up time for them to enjoy their families.  Even more important, this will be a product that working mothers can make a one-time investment in and have a lifetime of happiness.

Be as specific as possible, as detailed as possible and set actionable steps with deadlines. This exercise should be done no matter what your goal is.

Get Organized

Now that you know what your goals are for the remainder of the year.  You’ve set your deadlines on when each goal/task should be completed.  You’re ready to put a strategy in place that will set you up to be as successful as possible.

  • Get out your calendar, and add your task/goals on the date in which you will complete them.
  • Now schedule the time you’re going to use to work on those task.
  • Block out blocks of time that you can use to focus solely on your goals and work on the task that you need to check off of your list.

Doing this will help you be intentional about your goals and the things you want to accomplish.  It also helps you pre-plan for the time you’re going to need to work on your goals.  No excuses about “not having time.”  You’re just made time.

Get Active

If you’re going to be an effective goal getter, you’re going to need energy and stamina to push through those hard times and for some long nights of working on accomplishing those goals.  Ever heard the saying, ‘Get fit get rich?’ It holds some truth.  Ask the most successful person if they could have done it without a strong health foundation and they’ll laugh at you.  In order to get the type of transformational results you want, you have to be willing to transform into the person who is strong, mentally, physically and emotionally to do it.

‘Get fit get rich'

Incorporating at least 30 minutes of fitness activity a day is a good start, especially if you’re not already a fitness buff like myself.  Take the stairs instead of the elevator.  Take a walk (if the weather permits) after dinner.  Take the kids to play at the park.  Download a fitness app.  However you do it, just do it.  It will def be well worth it.  You’ll notice the increase in energy and your ability to get things done.  The mental clarity will help you make good decisions when chasing your goals. And before you know it, you’ll be a gym rate in no time!

Get Motivated

If you’re going to be successful at this thing you’re going to need some motivational medicine.  This is something a good book can help or some great mentors.  For me it was a book that helped me kick the procrastination and excuses and be about action.  ‘Do The Work’ by Steven Pressfield.  I cannot tell you much this short book kicked me into overdrive to stop talking, reading, researching and searching and just start doing.

It also helps to find a good mentor or two, or three.  It can be people who you look up to and admire that you know or someone you don’t know and they are your mentor in your head.  I have several mentors that I know in person and even more that don’t yet know that they’re my mentor (in my head) lol. Mentors are people you can look too for advice, motivation, and to get that extra push you need to kick your goals task!

Do The Work

Now it gets simple and maybe hard at the same time…if that’s even possible.  As an entrepreneur I can tell you that it is possible.  Now it’s time for you to DO THE WORK! Be about that action!  Make stuff happen!  All of that.  You have a clear view of your path for the rest of 2016, you have the steps you need to take and the tools you’ll need to get you through.  You’re ready, go out and conquer the rest of 2016!  Remember, it’s not how you start but how you finish and you’re ready to finish strong!

it’s not how you start but how you finish

 

Don’t be caught out with an idea and nowhere to put it!  Get your ‘KG Say’s’ Goaling Journal and always be prepared to WRITE IT DOWN!

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Are you ready to do the work but need that extra sauce to make your goal setting strategy extra spicy?   Schedule your complimentary discovery call today and get ready to take your goals from idea to whoa girl!

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