Who Is Life Strategist KG?
I’m a black girl who was raised in and around just about every “hood” in Nashville, TN. I dropped out of college after my freshmen year because I was “fast,” as we say in the south, and I became pregnant with my first son in my FIRST semester of college.
I dropped out because I needed to work full-time to support my son. I did not want to fall into the cycle that I had seen so many young mothers do of relying on government assistance to provide for my son. My son’s father, my then boyfriend, was in his life and did help but we were young, 20 & 21, and we had to make huge decisions to ensure we were able to provide and mine was dropping out of college and getting a real adult job.
When I say that was the first of many hard decision that I’ve had to make, but led me to discover my grit. I became pregnant with my second son at 21. Ashamed and afraid that I had become pregnant AGAIN so soon and still unwed, I contemplated getting an abortion. When it came down to it I couldn’t go through with it and decided to keep the baby even though at the time, me and my then boyfriend (hubby now), were not together. We found out that our son had a birth defect that would require extensive monitoring and once born, several surgeries to repair. This brought me and my husband closer and we decided to try to make our relationship work. Long story short, our son was born 2 months early, beautiful and very much alive with strong lungs. Due to complications from one of the surgeries, he passed away just two weeks after his birth. The saddest day of my life. The hardest decision I’ve ever had to make to this day was taking my newborn son off of life support and watching him take his last breath. I will never forget how empty I felt returning home without my son to see all of the preparations we were making for him. A crib with no baby. Breast milk that my son would never nurse on. This was my turning point. First I went through all of the stages of grief, denial, anger, depression, bargaining (this was the hardest I was trying to bargain on something that could not be changed), and ultimately I came to acceptance. I accepted that my son was gone but I also accepted the lesson I was meant to learn in that hard lesson, never take anything especially life for granted.
I decided that never again would I ever be ashamed of the blessings that God gave me no matter how he chose to give them to me. Never again would I would be worried about what people would think or say about MY life choices. I also decided that I was going to accomplish every goal I set for myself NO MATTER WHAT. That was in 2003. Since then I’ve had two more son’s, went back to school and obtaining both my bachelors and my masters oh and throw in there my Life Coaching certification. I’ve been blessed with another son who God put in my life because we needed each other. Not biologically mine but mine in every sense of the word. I’ve also been blessed with the opportunity to help raise my niece who has been a blessing in my life-giving me some balance in a house full of men. I’ve been blessed to be able to work at an awesome company with great people who I get to experience life with. Recently he’s blessed me to be able to step out of my comfort zone and start my own business where I will get to help people by being myself. Speaking my mind, sharing my story and helping people experience transformational life changes.
Has it been easy? Hell NAW! But every obstacle and every sacrifice has been worth it. I get to show my son’s and now my niece what dusting yourself off, straightening your crown and moving forward looks like. I get to speak from a place of experience and perseverance when I preach to them about doing their best, that they can be and do anything they set their minds to. I know because I’ve done it, I’m doing it and I will continue to move towards my calling until God calls me home, no matter what.
What makes me qualified to be your Transformation Coach?
My life experiences makes me qualified to teach others through the lesson’s I’ve learned along the way. At each road I’ve come to I’ve been met with obstacles, roadblocks and sometimes walls that I have had to literally go through.
When I decided to go back to school to work on my bachelors, I was 24 with 2 kids 3 and under. I was working a full-time job, being a full-time mom and just trying to maintain for my family. I remember right before I made the decision to go back to school how I was in a good space and feeling like nothing could go work and keep me from finishing what I had started. Life had thrown all it was going to throw at me and now life was just going to be steady and allow me to get my Bachelors degree, right? Boy was I wrong!
Three months into my program I found out that I was expecting my 4th son. I was shocked because my husband and I were being careful, or so we thought. Well, we have me getting sick and taking antibiotics and a night of passion after my reading one of Zane’s steamy books to thank. I was pregnant! I was in shock; however, I was not going to take this blessing for granted, I already knew what that led too, hard lessons. I made up my mind the day the doctor told me the test was positive that no matter what, I was not going to stop going to school and I was going to do whatever I needed to do to accomplish my goal because my life depended on it. My success depended on it and I wanted my boys to know what success looks like not just hear about it but see it.
When I delivered my 4th and last son via c-section, the following week after giving birth, I got a pillow for support, my laptop, car keys and took my behind to class. My teacher was shocked because I had told him the week before that I was giving birth but I would be back in class the next week. I was determined to get what I thought I would never get. One and half years later, I walked across the stage in front of my family and most importantly, my son’s. They got to witness their mom accomplish her goal of obtaining her degree. One of my proudest moments and it was that much more special because my boys got to witness it. Two years later I obtaining my Masters degree and again my boys were in the audience watching, clapping and smiling. #Proudmommoment
The journey has not been easy at all but I didn’t stop. There were times when we didn’t have money for gas to figure out how we were going to get to work let alone get our children where they needed to be and me get to class, but we pushed through and God provided.
There were times when we would get home and the electricity would be off because we didn’t have the money to pay the bill on time. We lit candles and pretended to be camping and we all did homework by candlelight, we pushed through and God provided.
There were times when I was so tired, so drained from life and my adult responsibilities that I just wanted to quit. In those moments I had to speak to myself and speak to my goals and lift myself so that I could keep going. I pushed through and God provided me the strength when I had none.
I say all of that to say that at each stop I had to push myself to be better because I knew what I wanted my life to look like and I knew that on the other side of the struggle was going to be a story for me to share with others who are struggling with different areas of their life. I knew that my history and the lessons I learned along the way could be used to motivate and help others.
I’m qualified because I know what it’s like to feel lost or feel like a failure. I know what uncertainty feels like when you have a passion but fear is holding you hostage. I’m a wife and a mother who has to push through my own internal struggles everyday and continue to chase my dreams while adulting. Life doesn’t stop just because you have a goal. You have to keep doing life and keeping moving forward when life throws you a curve ball. You have to do life and not let life do you. Life is a b*tch sometimes for real in real life and she will eat you up without any remorse and spit you right back out so that she can devour her next victim. You could forever be lost if you’re not willing to stand in and fight for what you want.
I am the transformation queen because I’ve transformed my own life through effective goal planning, grit, perseverance and self-motivation. I’ve gone from the young mother who was a college drop out, cleaning ish, on government assistance, never going to be more than a girl from the hood who had a bunch of kids out-of-wedlock chick that was trying to live up to the standards set out by other.
To a strong beautiful queen who is comfortable in her own skin, sets a goal and goes after it full speed ahead like a defensive end on football Sunday. Successful in my own right, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend and now I can add entrepreneur to the list. I’m the chick who is passionate about helping others experience transformational change in all areas of your life because I believe in you and I know that with guidance and the correct tools, you got this.
Be it a life goal, a business goal, dealing with a life issue that you need guidance and assistance navigating, I’m your girl. Hi, I’m your life strategist KG, that’s me:)
Now that you know more about me, I want to hear about you. Hit me up and let’s talk, tell me your story and let’s strategize your next move. Make your next move your best move and let’s make your goal accomplishing skills just a lit as you are.
Your dreams don’t work unless you do so hit me up and let’s get to work!
Keep it transformational,